What is the best way to stay out of drugs, alcohol, and drama in high school, when everyone does it?

Question

I am 16 and I have had a pretty difficult past. I lost my virginity young, I started smoking and drinking when I was 11, I was always into drama [and started a lot too!] and I stopped when I was 13. I am so ashamed of what I have done in the past. I have been home schooled for 3 years. I am going back to regular school this year and I am scared. They say once an alcoholic, always one. Almost everyone in this school that I have to go to smokes, drinks or is into drama. I want to meet new friends but some of them will smoke, drink, and be into drama, sadly. I am not sure if I am strong enough to say no. What is the best way to stay out of drugs, alcohol, and drama in high school, when everyone does it? Any advice or tips? I will be in high school another 3 years. Thanks.

Answer 1

Stay away from kids who do it.

learn how to say no.

know that just because people you know do drugs and drink, YOU ALWAYS have the choice not to.

as for drama, try as much as you can to avoid it. i know its not ALWAYS possible to avoid.

but don't get in  the middle of it. don't spread rumors, gossip, talk c**p, stay true to your word, don't make friends with girls who will s***w you over or get you a bad reputation.

say NICE things about people instead of bad things. especially when you're friends with someone that isn't exactly popular. it makes you look a lot better to stand up for one of those kids than the girl at school with the worst rep...

Answer 2

find better friends (sorry but ive been through this to... my friends kept m goin on it and once i gave up those friends an found ones that didnt pressure me into doin it or didnt do it themseves, i had an easier time stopping)

Answer 3

Drama is a part of life, there isn't really any way around that.

Maybe you should try to find a group of people who don't do that.

I'm sure somebody else is feeling the same as you.

Answer 4

Just say no, thank you and good day.

Answer 5

i have had  a life pretty similar to your except for losing my virginity. but what i did that turned my life around and has kept it that way was finding God. i am 15 now, and go to a high school where they drink and do drugs, but i can resist. just make sure that you get into a good group of friends.

Answer 6

uhm. wow. this is tough. you just need to stay true to yourself and just say no! im sure u can find 1 good friend whos not into all of that stuff. i mean drugs and alchohol and smoking are bad things. but drama is just apart of life.  but its ur choice weather or not to be apart of it. same goes for drugs alchohol its ur choice to be envolved or not! no one can make u do anything! remember that

Answer 7

Think of the things that have happend to people who have smoked and drank young, and JUST SAY NO!!

Answer 8

STAY A WAY FROM FRIENDS WHO ARE INVOLVED

Answer 9

if you don't believe you are strong enough you probably aren't.

stay home schooled.

Answer 10

KEEP YOURSELF BUSY WITH POSITIVE SCHOOL ACTIVITY AND SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE AND TALK TO YOUR PARENTS.

Answer 11

participate in alot of school activities so u dont have alot of spare time on your hands, (school play, sports, clubs, etc.) just say no, and change the subject.

Answer 12

Its hard to avoid drama but you always have the option to not use drugs and alcohol. The best thing to do is stay away from it.  If you are around it, stay true to what your ideals are.

Answer 13

Stay away from negative peer pressure and if they ask you stay away until it blows over

Answer 14

give in to peer pressUre be ur own person and hang With a positive group of new friends

Answer 15

dont give into peer pressure

if they ask you to smoke or something say NO

good luck

Answer 16

I made it through high school without drinking, smoking or doing drugs. I'm a sophomore in college and still haven't done any of those things.

I kept myself busy, that was the main reason I never did it. I had more important things that I wanted to do with my life rather than getting wasted every weekend. Another reason I never did it is because I just didn't see the point. If I have fun, I'd like to remember it, not get so drunk I pass out and forget everything I did. The last reason I never did it was because I have had alcoholics in my family and I see what problems alcohol can cause... not saying that after one drink you'd be an alcoholic, but I'd rather not start early...

Also, not EVERYONE does those things, it's just a matter of finding the people who don't, and keeping yourself surrounded with people who have a good head on their shoulders.

If someone invites you to a party, say "No thanks, I already have plans" and go on your way, so you won't be tempted.

Answer 17

Use Nancy Reagan's quote...."Just say no".   If you don't want to do something, you  won't. But if you really want to then you will. it's YOUR choice, no one else has to be you forever... Misery loves company. Easier said than done, i know. Find a burning fuel of will power that you can use to let yourself do what you truely want.  You might feel rejected but later it will feel oh so sweet when you are happy and healthy and everyone else is having a crapy life. Good luck, I'm going through the same thing. Iv'e done things I truly regret, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person and I don't have to continue doing them.... Don't say "diet starts monday" make changes now.

Answer 18

You say no to those things you don't want to be involved in.Your friends ( true friends) will not try to presure you to do something just to fit in.Try to buudy up with someone who has similar attutudes.You are making changes in your life and ae to be commended for  your courage in turning your life around.We all make mistakes in life ,and all we can do is learn from them.Try join clubs or activities that reflect your interests and at least it will give you the beginning of a friend base The debate club would be a good avenue to build up your confidence .Good luck

Answer 19

Don't discourage yourself.

Tell yourself you ARE strong enough, not that you aren't. You're here aren't you? You're sober now and doing great now, right? That's what the process is all about. You have to live day to day, and step by step. You are doing great, and if you believe you can, you will continue to do great!

Get involved with the right crowd. Not everyone does drugs & drinks. I go to a pretty bad public high school; but I can assure you that not everyone is like this. I'm not & most of my friends aren't either. Join various clubs and activities and get involved with the school. Meet people that have similar interests as you and only do what you feel comfortable doing. You have to remember that YOU control YOU. Nobody else tells you what you can and can't do but yourself. Be the best that YOU can be.Do the best that YOU can do. Don't let ANYone tell you what you can and can't do. Show some respect for yourself!

Remember how important school is and do all your work. Have you ever talked to a therapist? If you ever feel you need to; for anything, talk to your parents and discuss talking to someone.

EDIT: I just read your profile about getting involved in a religion. Religion is so important. I'm Christian; and it's amazing what god can do for you. Fate is so important in life and it takes you to where you truly want to and are supposed to be.

Good luck.

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Answer 20

surround yourslef with good kids

Join the band, those kids (nerds...myself =p) are usually nice!