What is the best way to stop my bf uncle from buying my son Richard who is 11 yrs old with autism toys?

Question

he buys him power rangers toys at £30 to £40 pounds a time ,and he buys him stuff at least three times a week,i am trying to get throw to richard that big toys like that are for bdays and xmas

Answer 1

Tell him that Richard gets to have BIG gifts for his birthday and Christmas. Just try to explain where you are standing. If he is hurt apologize. Hope I helped!!!

Answer 2

Errr..... ask him to stop?

Answer 3

Tell him that although you really appreciate his gifts, you would prefer Richard to only have large gifts at Christmas or on his birthday, so if he wants to get him something then he can, but not all the time.

Answer 4

Ask him to stop... And if he doesn't tell him to give the toys to you so you can make sure he will like them (or something along those lines) and then just donate them to a child who actually NEEDS a toy or two.

Answer 5

Suggest that he saves up for maybe a big present (trip away?) and that maybe spending time playing with him would be a good alternative. He's probably trying to be nice!

Answer 6

dont quite know why you felt the need to add "with autism" but still, like the answer above said tell him to stop

Answer 7

It is important to let the uncle know that you think his presents are lovely and you are very happy he is such a loving uncle but attention and warmth are so much more important than toys. Also it can make a child look forward not to seeing his uncle but the toys he brings. I am sure your uncle will understand. Maybe you could suggest he gets books for him instead or something which could actually help him study and develop.

Answer 8

Catch him at the door - before your child sees the gift. Tell him that you are not going to accept the gift and he should take it back. If your child happens to see the gift (and it's appropriate to do so for your child) tell him that it isn't for him, or that it was a mistake - or something - and have the person remove the present from sight.

Or, if your child does get the gift before you can stop it, and your child can handle the gift 'magically disapearing' then at a time when he's not around, return the gifts to the uncle, and tell him that future gifts will not be accepted accept at holidays.

Maybe when the uncle sees that the child isn't going to get the gift, that he's doing more harm than good - he'll stop.

Answer 9

Tell him to stop?

Answer 10

Just talk to him and say that you think he should only be allowed toys at Christmas although make it clear that you appreciate it that he cares so much for your son.

Answer 11

Don't ask - TELL!

Just tell him that, although you appreciate the kindness, if he can't help you by respecting your wishes, he won't be welcome in your house. BTW, where's your b/f in all this?

Answer 12

I'm not sure why you keep bringing up the fact that your child has autism when the question does not relate to the condition.

How to stop him from buying toys?  You tell him to stop.  Demand it if you have to.

Answer 13

Tell him that if he wants to contribute to any kid with autism instead of getting your son the toys.....he could give money to a research to help find a cure for autism.....i have a sister with autism and i would love it if someone could find a cure for that.

Answer 14

Politely refuse the gifts until he "gets it".

Answer 15

I am a nuerologist and have before studied autism. These toys won't do any harm to your child. Now yes there could be better toys for him but these"power rangers"c ould also help with his motor skills. But at the moment the current issue that I see is about the amount of money that is being spent and the amount of toys you need to handle. Well to start, have him buy more appropriate toys, go to the store with him and explain which toys are more appropriate and wich aren't. Then give him a limit, tell him you'll only accept so much toys, as a spending limit, accept only toys that are worth under a specified limit. Also I good way to go about this is if he doesn't stop tell him all unused toys will be donated to charity, this way your not dealing with the amount of toys. I hope this helped

Answer 16

tell him to stop. if he doesnt, donate the toys to a shelter or toys for tots

Answer 17

Just tell him to stop...simple as that. If you are worried the uncle's buying your son toys out of sympathy, then please don't take offence to it. Your boyfriend's uncle just wants to show children love. Older people can't possibly spend money on themselves anymore, can they?

Answer 18

Does you're uncle have children of his own?  Perhaps he is acting out a need to behave in a paternal fashion.  Propose to him giving gifts that are of his time and not from his wallet.  If your uncle has a need to behave as a paternal surrogate, then treat him more like you would a grandparent--where you might negotiate appropriate rolls for their part in raising your son.  Redirecting his gift efforts to giving of his time instead of toys.

Answer 19

Tell him to stop it & that you won't be allowing your son to accept any more. He has enough of them & it will ruin birthdays and christmas.

Answer 20

Have you already said something?  You don't have to say anything if you've already said something.  Just give the toys to charity.

Answer 21

what does the fact of him having autism have to do with it? I'm not really informed on it. So I don't know if the toys are causing your son problems or whatever. I think the main thing is..you have a problem with him spoiling his nephew. Do you think he's doing it because he has autism? Is he the only nephew? Is he the fav nephew? I would either explain to him WHY you want him to give those on major "holidays" Just saying oh you shouldn't have won't drive the point home to him. And if he insists, maybe you should get the toys when he buys them and tell him you will put them up for your son for later. I have 2 sons and toys can get pretty overwhelming when they have uncles/aunts buying stuff constantly. Good Luck!