What is the big deal about s*x b4 marriage? What do u think about it?

Question

Ok, i am only 15 but still. I don't see the big deal about s*x b4 marriage. I am not religous so don't pull the bible c**p. I mean, if u love someone, and ur safe, why does it matter? I would have s*x tomorrow if i really loved a guy. what about you? when was your first time?

Answer 1

Okay well to me i think you should save it till after marriage ,

having s*x right now is way too young , I'm the same age as you .

It`s better to wait to know if you bf/gf is really committed and honest ,

and is not going to sleep with someone else if you don't do it with him or her right now .

But i think everyone has their own opinion , and can do it when ever they please , and I'm christian , and i still believe people should be able to make their own decisions , The answer about saving it is just my opinion .

Answer 2

I think everyone should be free to do what they want. If you feel inclined to have s*x with someone you love...then...ok. XD it's all about freedom of choice.

I think that saving s*x for marriage is at the least a decent way to safeguard yourself. something like either becoming  pregnant at the wrong time, or becoming really intimate with a guy and then having your heart broken).

I have a friend who's been through several boyfriends, and she just kind of never gets into her relationships anymore.

I don't think that happens to everyone, and I'm not saying it's normal, but I do know she feel a lot more empty now because she always brings s*x into the relationship too fast, and then gets burned when the guys split.

I've never been in a situation where I've felt like I loved a guy enough to want to have s*x with him, so I don't know how my answer will sound to you. :) I'm just giving my opinion.

at any rate- its about what you want to do, and we're still in the land of the free!

Answer 3

I was 15 and in love with the guy. People worry because alot of teens can't support a baby if something were to go wrong, but you're right too. I'm not religious either.

Answer 4

I was 15 (almost 16) and had been in a long term relationship (even though the guy turned out to be a complete a*****e) i dont regret it because at the time i was ready.. I dont believe in the whole "wait until your married" thing.. i think whenever your ready then you should do it.. If you are with someone and you are in love with them and want to express your love physically with them then i think you should..

I mean, you could wait and save yourself for marriage and then get divorced.  If you are planning to marry that person anyway, why wait until marriage? Its a personal decision everyone makes..

Answer 5

Well I have had s*x before marriage, but I waited til I knew for sure that I was in love, and that took 2 years of dating and 10 boyfriends and I was almost 18 when I decided to have s*x. No regrets from me. I suppose IF you were to get pregnant it would be preferable that you were in a committed relationship, whether that be marriage or even just having been together for a long time. Unplanned pregnancies happen all the time, it happened to me when I was 19 (almost 20) and I was lucky to have been with the father for 2 and a bit years at the time and we loved each other very much, so it has worked out for us. If I had have been sleeping with a bunch of random men, or been with the father for only a couple of months, then I would most likely have ended up raising our daughter on my own.

Answer 6

i agree with you 100% if you only have s*x with that one person your more likely to cheat later..my first time was with a guy i was with for 5 years my now husband has been my only other and we have a daughter together and one on the way as long as your safe and not just sleeping with people like you change your socks no big deal i believe s*x is something special and not just s*x but i do not think it is bad to not wait until marriage...

Answer 7

May God open all ur eyes to his teachings!

Answer 8

I am 13 and still a virgin. But as long as you use protection I see nothing wrong with it.

Answer 9

Well it really doesnt matter.  This isnt 1940.  I had/have alot of s*x before marriage.   I dont want to sound like w***e , but before I met my fiance , I had mucho s*x , sometimes I didnt even know the guys last name.  When I met my now fiance , our relationship felt different , so I waited a while before we had s*x.  And im glad I did.  We have a good healthy s*x life.  Besides my grandma  (yes my grandma) said that you should test drive before you buy   and she wasnt talking about cars or shoes!!!!    I found out alot about my self.  BUT you have to be SAFE!! always!!     I am disease free , completely.  So saftey is key!!  

Answer 10

its really no big deal but the thing is alot of teenagers are having unproctected s*x and getting pregnant. these teens arent able to take care of them so there parents have to do it for them while the teens go to school or whatever else they may have to do. yes its normal for people to have s*x b4 marriage but it also means it gives you time to mature and know what your responsiblities are as a teens or adult. i had s*x when i was 17 and got pregnant got married when 19 but i just started dating this guy but i knew he was going to be the one, and he was. to me i think everyone should wait until they are ready these days there is so much diseases out there and so many pregnancies i think people should wait becuase of these circumstances. but if you love one another and can support each other if something happens then why not have s*x i just think waiting until your out of highschool for sure  

Answer 11

s*x is like duct tape.  Stick it on enough places and pull it off, eventually it won't stick any more.

Answer 12

I don't think it's a big deal. If you love the person then it's okay. Marriage doesn't really mean anything. I respect people who choose to wait till getting married, and when i have s*x, i expect them to respect my choice  as well.  

Answer 13

im 14

i don't care about to tell you the truth cos well haha i like s*x im not guna lie

but im not tryin to do it i try to control myself which is vvveeery hard

i need to get a pill or sumtin for my hormones

but i would do it with my bf if we went out for long enouph and i loved him too

Answer 14

I'm still a virgin and im 13. But im really in love with the guy ive been dating for a year. So I would do it tomorrow if I could.

Answer 15

I have had s*x outside of marriage and I don't regret it at all.  Your right, I do believe it is about loving someone and being safe - but it is also about other things beside bible stuff.

Sharing a part of yourself in such an intimate way is very personal, therefore, people think it is best to wait for marriage as the commitment to be together forever has been made and it can make marriage just that little more special.

Either way, it is a personal choice, and while there have been alot of religious implications, it is still the choice of the person, to stick to their beliefs as well as their values.

Answer 16

I dont see the big deal either, never have...its all religious BS.  If YOU want to have s*x, have it, be safer (use condom and be on the pill if you can be).  Explore your body and sexuality just like you explore anything else in your life that is enjoyable.  But always feel free to say NO too if you want to.