What is the deal with teenagers truing to give us a hard time when we ask them to do something?

Question

from amy!

Answer 1

It is traditional!!

Answer 2

How quickly we forget that we were that age once and our parents would of been thinking the same thing. Its part of growing up.

Answer 3

just dont ask them to do something it takes less enagy.

Answer 4

Ahhh teenagers...you're not THAT old that you don't remember being one right? And I'm guessing like most teenagers at some point in time you gave your parents a hard time when they asked you to do something.

A couple answers come to mind lol..I remember when I was a teenager, especially around 15-17 (omg almost 10 years ago already) I didn't want to have much to do with anything any adult asked me to do. I wanted to have my own agenda; hang out with my friends, listen to my music, get my work done so I could stay on the phone all night with my best friend. Part of it was the "I just don't want to" rebellious attitude..part of it was "you're impeding on MY schedule" attitude.

Most of the time if the request was reasonable and didn't include the dishes (still hate them) I eventually caved in and responded.

As for teenagers these days......I know ONE...and she's a good kid who doesn't give an attitude very fast lol

Answer 5

Didn't you give your parents a hard time? The very definition of 'teenager' is being difficult. We've got all these hormones rushing through our blood, sometimes we're very up and sometimes we're incredibly down. Helpful or downright lazy. Cheerful or grumpy. It's the age of extremes :p

Answer 6

It's normal. Didn't you use to do it when you were a teenager? I know that I did. Just keep at them. My mom did and it worked for me. My husband does and it works for him.

Answer 7

were are just really lazy i know when my mom ask me to do some thing simple like the dishes and i give her a hard time its cuz I'm just really lazy.

Answer 8

They are establishing themselves as individuals....Or selfish lazy gits..

Answer 9

Its mandatory... check the rule book LOL

Answer 10

Teenage years are tough - emotions are all screwed up, pressures of school are high, and they are also trying to walk to line between being children and grown up - half the time we adults expect grown-up behaviour from them, but then turn around and treat them like children.... it's no fun at all.  (I have a 14 year old son, and I can still remember what it was like being a teen....yes, I do have to grit my teeth - a lot - but then I take a step back and remember....).

Ask them politely to help you out/do chores... just as you would an adult.  Keep your requests short - or they will have forgotten how the sentence started by the time you have finished (! - proven scientifically!!).

The main thing is to get your children onside and helpful/well mannered BEFORE they hit teenage years - not to wake up one morning and realise you have an out of control adolescent on your hands.  It may not make the actual teen years any easier as a parent, but at least you will have hope that one day they will be the sweet individual that you had lovingly raised all these years...