What is the dynamic in your relatonship...do you share everyting or tend to keep it in.....?

Question

My husband and i are complete opposites, I share EVERYTHING, he shares very little. To the point where I sometimes look at him and wonder just exactly who he is.

Would it be easier in your opinion to live with someone who shares everything or who shares very little?

Pros for sharing everything...you know where you stand, cons...you may come to know some things you don't want to know and that could in essence change your perception of your partner.

Pros for keeping it all in, I can think of none, cons, you never know exactly what is going on.

What is your opinion, what pros and cons can you think of, how could it make parenting together more difficult?

Answer 1

I can imagine that if you and your husband were more alike you would actually drive each other mad. I'm sure that you are learning from your husband that it's actually a good thing not to always share your thoughts and feelings, and he might learn from you aspects of being more open.

Answer 2

My husband and I are opposites for the most part, but we communicate really well. I think it's such a balance act, and it can be very difficult to find the right level. My husband and I were very open with our opinions on parenting before we started to try for a child, we didn't want to get ourselves into something and realize that we were on polar opposite sides of the spectrum. Luckily, we agree on most things, there are little things here and there that we don't see eye to eye on, but we've agreed to back each other up when those situations arise. We won't play each other against the other, if that makes sense.