What is the etiquette for a baby shower in which one was not invited....?

Question

Bunch of people had a baby shower for coworker named "A".

"B" or C were going to organize it. I had told "B" and "C" to let me know when the shower is going to be.

"B" organized it with "D". C stayed out of it. B forgot to invite and claims to have accidentally forgotten, apologized a lot. I was hurt and pissed inspite of it.

I like A and wanted to give her a nice gift. Considering that I was not invited do i still give a gift certificate or shd I assume I was not wanted and leave it alone? What is the etiquette on this one?

Answer 1

Just give "A" a gift while you are at work.

Answer 2

Give the gift.  Ask someone who's going to bring it to A for you.

Answer 3

It doesn't sound like A was involved in the planning at all. If you want to give her a gift then you should. Deal with your issue with B separately, don't bring A into it.

Answer 4

Give A the gift you wanted to give her.  But don't do it at the shower.

Answer 5

If I were in your shoes, I would buy her a nice gift and a card. In the card I would write that you were so sorry that you were not at her shower but B and say her name forgot to invite you. Tell her that you just felt so bad that you could not be there for her.  

Answer 6

I would get her a nice gift and give it to her at work where everyone will see that you did give her something.  I would be very tempted to say something in front of everyone about not being invited, but I'd hold back since it's not her fault.