What is the ideal age to fall pregnant?

Question

I am going through a bit of a problem, I am 28 years old and my husband turns 30 next month. We have been married for three years and definitely want to start a family. The problem is I have only just started getting things rolling in my career and I know with one more years experience under my belt I could secure a great job for the future even if I go on maternity leave.

My problem is my mom and all my family seem to be telling me horror stories of having children after the age of 30. Is it really such a big difference? Should I start the family now and think of career later?

Anyone been in a similar situation and how did you deal with it? Thanks

Answer 1

i think you should do what you feel will be best for you and your family. having a baby at 30 shouoldn't be a big deal. unless you have underlying fertility problems. go see you obgyn and see if there is any reason you shouldn't put a baby off for another year or two. Good Luck. and don' let other people decide when its right for you to have a child.

Answer 2

First of all you are having the baby, you will be carrying the baby for 9 months...plus is perfectly fine to have a baby over 30, see all the celebrities they are like 40 and popping baby's...get your career straight it will benefit your baby later....then have a baby....

Answer 3

I just turned 30 & am 22 weeks pregnant with #1. Everything is going great & my Dr. doesn't seem overly concerned about my age. Pregnancies after 35 are considered higher risk but even then there are many healthy pregnancies. My main concern with waiting was that it might be harder to conceive at an older age. We waited until we both felt ready. They say it takes an average healthy couple up to a year to conceive, & then if they haven't to consult a Dr. It took us 9 months(I was going to wait out the year.) If over 30 they say maybe to see a Dr. after 6 months. Really no problems otherwise, just make sure you stay healthy as possible. If your periods are pretty regular, you're probably fine. Good luck

Answer 4

To my knowledge there is no unusual risks up to at least age 35, but I haven't studied this extensively.

Later, though, there are risks to the baby more than the mother. It may be a good idea to specifically speak with an MD regarding the time lines and liablities with the passage of time.

For the moment and immediate future, the horror stories are probably based on rare occurrances.

  

Answer 5

no my brother was born after 30 and we r doing fine lol

lets see...im 13 and hes 19 and momas 51..... so im guessing at 32 he was born if i did the math good.....if u plan it right NOTHING WILL GO WRONG...I AM NOT SOME CRACK DEALER

Answer 6

Career first.  Baby second.  

Answer 7

I don't think it makes a huge difference... I was 17 when I first fell pregnant and I lost the baby. I then fell pregnant at 18 (after 9 months of trying... who ever said that teens only have to think about s*x to get pregnant was lying!) I had many problems including bleeding, high blood pressure, severe morning sickness, proteins in my urine... so I was young and still had lots of problems with pregnancy!

Do what you want with your career and the focus on having a family :)

Answer 8

How do you "fall" pregnant?  Is it like falling ill?

Answer 9

Only you and your partner really know the answer to your question, 30 is not to old to start a family, as long as you have money and a stable relationship which is sounds like you do. My partner is 34 and we are trying to conceive my first child (He already has 2 from a previous marriage). I have recently been hooked into a book called 'Zita West's Guide To Getting Pregnant' In this book she often states that there is never a 'perfect' time to have a baby as something is always happening for example a job career. She said most of the couples that go into her clinic say 'oh we said the next year and then the next etc..'

If YOU feel that you can raise a family and you really want it surly watching a baby grow and develop will be worth putting over your career for a couple of years, You say another year will help with your job then why not maybe start trying in 6 months or so as sometimes it can take longer to fall pregnant than we expect (ive been trying for about 1 and half years), and then if problems do come up which i hope they dont you can resolve this whilst still working..

Hope this helps you, but as i said it is all up to you and your partner

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Answer 10

My sister is 41 and just gave birth to a beautiful bouncing healthy baby girl. Last year.

It was her third child and all three were high risk pregnancies. The doctor told her that the baby looked healthy and she shouldnt let it worry her being 40 years old. =)

I wouldnt worry about it if i were you. Secure your job and promise that baby a great future!

My mom was 37 when she had me.

Answer 11

the ideal age is when you both feel ready to have a baby!! Its so hard balancing family and career but i guess your fertile years are running out and career may have to wait!! You can always get back into work after you have babies!!! Good luck with your decisions

Answer 12

I have 1 daughter (2yo) im 26 my Dr. asked if I wanted more because I was getting up their in age and that their were higher risks involved.  I would talk to your own Dr. see what they say

Answer 13

i think u shud worry about ur career first and thenn a family. u wouldnt be able to raise a child properly if u were rushing back to work and trying to do ya thang. so do what u want to do, and then have kids =) thats my plan anyway

Answer 14

I dont know what Country you are from...but things are not as bad as they were. At one time women had to give there jobs up to have children. Now you can have paid maternity leave in most countries. The UK has creches too..

No... I suggest you start a family straight away before you get much older...28 is about right, but I wouldnt leave it till you are in your thirties. Good Luck...  

Answer 15

i think u should do whats best for u.theres nothing wrong with having a child after 30.

Answer 16

it is not a real big deal but yes i would start now and enjoy the time you have but do not give up on your career keep doing what you are doing and don't give up on it just yet fallow your dreams and have a family now.

Answer 17

im 23 and my fiance is 24 were expecting our first baby boy nov 12th, he was planned and we knew we were ready x

Answer 18

Tell your mom and everyone else to shut up. Things have changed so much in our day and age. People don't even start till 30's now and have them well into there 50's even! Its only one year. I think you should wait. It will be better for your family in the long run.