What is the point of holding hands?? ?

Question

.. what is the point of holding hands in a relationship.. of a kiss..?? an embrace..

many might say as a sign of "love"... but really what is it?? there must be more to it..

i seriously ask this question with ... i feel the lack of enthusiasm when i do those things..... like its unnecessary ...

am i the only one??

i dont know whats wrong with myself.. but .. idk

any advice for my confusion!!!!

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Answer 1

Because today's young people are now desensitized to these little signs of romance or courtship, which can lead up to love, the young relationships skip all of these steps and go right for the wham bam! None of these little gestures mean anything now because they are not considered anymore as part of getting to know each other. I remember the first time a boy held my hand... it gave me butterflies in my tummy. And the first time he hugged me then kissed me, omg.... I almost fainted from the sensation! It was like my head floated up to the sky and the stars and stayed there for a long time....

It's too bad that this kind of courtship doesn't happen anymore. Young people "know" everything before they even get to dating age. So it's not exciting to them. They've seen every kind of sexual situation in movies, on TV, on the Internet - so there is no thrill for them anymore. It's really very sad....

You are not confused, nor is there anything wrong you. You're just a product of today's mixed-up, instant gratification, gimme gimme gimme society. I'm glad I'm not a young person today. It's hard enough dealing with the world in my own head.  

Answer 2

Most people crave human touch.  My family was not a touchy-feely family but I still have a strong need for closeness to people.  

I used to be VERY uncomfortable with hugs from friends and family.  It was very unfortunate.  I forced myself to let people I trusted get close to me.  Now I think that the touching part of a relationship is an integral part of the intimacy.

I would ask yourself why is touching uncomfortable- bad experiences? not attracted enough? intimacy issues?

As a side note, I hug and kiss my son as much as I can.  It is part of letting him know how much he is loved.  My husband has a 20 something  son who still gives his Dad a hug and a kiss on the cheek when ever they say good bye.  I would have never fully understood how important human touch is until having a child.  Now I don't know how I survived all these years with out it.

Answer 3

what the point in anything? if that's your perspective in life why not just stay in bed all day? whats the point in that? that's the problem when you over think something. you always come to the conclusion that it dosent make any sense. to over question god is to flirt with insanity.

Answer 4

When two people love each other unconditionally, holding hands, embracing, kissing, are ways to 'connect' with the 'other' in a person's life.  When a parent wants to keep a child from running into the street, they'll hold hands and talk to the child to distract it.  Some people, those who are very insecure, want to hold hands, hug, or kiss all the time to reassure themselves that their 'other' is thinking about them.  Holding hands, kissing, and embracing are ways to 'connect' with another person that requires no talking.  My husband and I walk hand in hand at least 50% of the time when we're out, to the point that we don't even think about it ... we love each other, we like being together, and holding hands makes us feel closer, even when we are just walking down the street.  

Answer 5

Holding hands shows that you two share an emotional connection. A bond.

A kiss is what ppl do to each other when they're in  love, they kiss.

Maybe you just need to mix it up a little in the love department.

Answer 6

tsk tsk tsk girl girl girl...whens the last time you have seen the sun?

Answer 7

Wow. Now your getting me confused.

It's just a sign of flirting. It's OK. Just as long as your partner doesn't try to let go, it's nice gesture.

Answer 8

Embraces and touching helps release the hormone oxytocin which stimulates the part of your brain that create generally good feelings like love and bonding. Get the August issue of Prevention magazine. They have a great article about this and how good it is for your health to stimulate this hormone and create more meaningful bonds in your life.  

Answer 9

u aint holding hands with or kissing the right boy or girl.  when u are holding hands or kissing the right person, you wont feel confused or anything anymore, cuz u'll be so happy!

Answer 10

a kiss is a really really intimate thing , you should be able to feel something in the kiss and if you dont and theres no chemistry your probably not with the right person and well holding hands is  just a sweet little thing as well as putting your arm around her shoulder it shows people that you guys are a happy couple and your both taken and it makes the girl feel protective. when a guy holds your hand or puts your arm around you it makes you feel protected and secure in the relationship and mostly when guys do that its because they wont people to know shes your girl.  you see the spaces between our fingers other peoples hands are supposed to fill them thats why god made it that way.

Answer 11

This is actually a better question for an anthropologist but I'll do my best. ---Add--on: This is NOT a stupid question.Here you go...

1. Kissing is said to have evolved over time as a show of sincere caring and affection ONLY for those we love. Presumably in ancient times, parents had to chew food for their little toddlers and feed them (like a momma bird)! This also applied to caring for those who were sick or old as well. Back then it was the only way to feed a person who couldn't do it themselves..hence you would only touch lips with someone you REALLY cared about. Over time this evolved to simply touching lips (note that family members kiss also).

2. Hugging is simply from parents holding their young. From an early age we learn the comfort of our parents holding us when we are scared, when we are ill and when we are emotionally upset. As we grow, we become too big to be held, but caring and "helping" gets translated into a standing hug instead among older people.

First, if you want to feel a connection with someone you care about, hug them straight -on and hold until you feel their heart beat a few times. It really makes a difference...you say that you feel its unnecessary and perhaps you are right, but maybe your friends or family have a need to hug you sometimes..you can always do it as an expression of your caring so that THEY feel better even if you are secure about it. There are some people who are fake with their hugs and I agree that those hugs really have no purpose...just hug those people you care about to show affection...:-)

Hope that helps.

GANLDOC

Answer 12

Because it feels good. See this article to see what you might have missed growing up.

http://www.thecontentcorner.com/Article/...  

Answer 13

Why not take it a step further?  What is a touch?  What is a glance, why interact with others at all?

All of these things make us feel more connected.  We are a social animal and do not do well on our own.  The close we get to people, the more affection and love we have.  We show this by getting very close, touching, holding, kissing.  If you are not feeling anything when you do these things, there is either some underlying social block within you, or you are not doing them with someone you truly care for.