What is the point of protecting him?

Question

okay well this is about my bro anthony. i don't know what to do with him.he has been acting out big time he is 16 and he acts like a ********* and i hate him for it.of course i still love him he is my family but ugh.i know he is older and doesnt want to be seen with his lil sis but i am 13 not big of diffrence.sometimes my bro can act nice and care for me a lot of the time though he is so mean and hates me. and well lately he has been breaking my parents rules.and i have seen him my parents ask me to tell them what he has been doing but i lie for him. i don't like to but i keep thinking maybe if i cover for him he will be nicer but he never changes.he treats my friends better.i have these two friends sisters and he flirts with them gives them money and treats them better then me.but he doesnt know there my friends but the older sis keeps telling him but he forgets. he gets high and drunk and hangs out with gangs. he drives his friends around he is out late. and the fudged up thing is he owes me like 90 dollars but he never pays me back and lately i have had enough.i miss when we were smaller he was so much nicer but since we moved he has been being mean.he even has a gf and he treats her like me! and i think that is messed. should i tell my parents? what should i do?

ps. if i do tell he may tell my parents what i did its not as bad as him but i did s-n-e-a-k out with my cuz

help!

o and help with this one to.

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Answer 1

Sounds like his life is declining. Yes, you need to talk with your parents. Maybe let them know that you want to be loyal to your brother but you are worried about him.

Being 16 is hard, hopefully he will grow out of this stuff and in a few years he will be the responsible big brother you want to have, to look up too.

13 isn't easy either, looks like you may have to be the responsible one out of the two of you. Take responsibility for sneaking out, be brave enough to face up to your mistakes and help your brother.

Answer 2

tell ur parents they might not b leeve him aftr wat hes done sooo  

Answer 3

I wouldn't squeal on him to your parents. He is messed up and all you can do is pray he ain't going to do something stupid.

Answer 4

Tell your parents. If he is getting involved in gangs, that is VERY dangerous and he could die! He may hate you for it now, but he will thank you for it when he is an adult and he isn't dead or in prison. He is going down a very destructive path with the alchol and drugs. You need to help stop him when you can!!  

Answer 5

Tell your parents!  By not telling them about the dangerous and drug-related behavior he is involved in, will only hurt your brother in the future.  Right now, he is still a "child" in the eyes of the law (16yrs).  Your parents can get him help!  Once he turns 18, there is nothing they can do becuase he will be an adult.  Overall, it doesn't matter if your parents find out that you snuck out.  Your brothers problem could turn very bad and he could end up with an addiction or be killed in a gang incident.  YOU HAVE to tell your parents.  SAVE YOUR BROTHER & TELL YOUR PARENTS! PLEASE!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Your parents need to know that he is engaging in really risky behavior... alcohol, drugs, s*x and gangs are not something they want to deal with in advanced stages. They need to do an intervention now.

Consider herding your parents into their room and quietly telling them exactly what you know about what is going on. Tell them that if they don't believe you, they can take him in for some drug testing. Believe me, they will be grateful. Get ready to answer the question "Why didn't you tell us before?"... tell them that you suspected something and wanted to check up on it some first before telling them.

Yes, your brother will be cheesed off.

Quit giving your brother money, and don't let him take any. Get a keyed lock on your bedroom door or at least your closet door and lock your purse up the minute you get home.  

Answer 7

I would tell you're parents.  You need to protect your brother AT ALL COSTS.  However, you aren't protecting him by not telling your parents.  You will be protecting him from, what it sounds like, quite a bit of danger.  You need to look at it this way...If I tell my parents about all of the bad things bro is doing, he will get mad at me.  But, he will love me for it someday for protecting him.  If I don't tell, and he gets hurt or hurts someone, I will feel guilty for not saying anything.  If it was an isolated event, I wouldn't worry about it.  But, since it is going on all of the time, I do think you should say something.

Answer 8

Your brother needs help.  If he continues on this path, he will either end up in jail, hurting/killing someone or end up dead himself.  Talk to an adult you trust about this situation.  Then come clean with your parents about sneaking out.  Tell them you have been feeling badly about what you did especially disrespecting their rules.  Tell them your sorry and want to earn their trust back--then do it.