What is the proper phrase to use in a wedding invitation informing guests to give gifts in monetary form?

Question

Im hosting a wedding dinner but the venue is in an overseas country where we're not staying so we wouldn't want any appliances or any bulky items for a gift since it will difficult for us to bring it over due to luggage limitations. Can you help me to phrase it in a way that it wouldn't be rude to inform my guests?

Answer 1

It's rude to put anything about money on the invite. Usually if there is no registry guests will ask you (or other relatives) what you would like as a gift so you could spread the word through close family members that you would prefer money. The other alternative would be to set up an online registry with a store in the country you will be returning to so your gifts can be delivered but your guests are also able to purchase them online for you.

Answer 2

It is rather difficult to "spell" this out. You could try to use that  "overseas" thing to make this request.Something like.. "I know you have the perfect gift for us, but we promise to buy the exact same thing when we get back home.. Shipping will cost us a fortune!!", or something that people should realise that money are easier to carry..

Answer 3

Just say "Cash only please, it's our wedding night fantasy to f**k on a pile of money." That way you're just being crass instead of rude.

Answer 4

It is rude to ask for cash gifts.  A better way of handling this would be "Please ship any gifts directly to our home instead of to the wedding location due to luggage limitations".

Answer 5

For any gifts above the stated size,please sent to....................[your home address] due to luggage limitations. Thank you.

Answer 6

There is no way to phrase this on a wedding invitation without coming off as rude. Get it out via word of mouth.

Most likely your guests are smart enough to realize it's probably not a good idea to bring a big gift to a destination wedding.

Answer 7

There is no good way to ask for a gift and to ask for money is not only inpolite it is rude and crass and greedy.  So you give people the option of sending your gift to you real home.  They will not want to carry a gift in luggage so they will probably find it easier and more practical to give you money but under no circumstances can you ask for it.  You can't ask because you cannot ask for a gift.  A gift comes from the heart and though of the giver not the demand of the receiver.

Answer 8

The appropriate way of doing so is by word of mouth.

Since it's an overseas wedding. my guess is that most of your guests will be out of town too and they do not want to carry gifts either.

There are only to politically correct ways to do this:\

-Do not set a registry

-Tell your family and hersand the bridal party to spread the word. People will ask you what would you like/want and you can explain that anything would be greatly appreciated and that due to travelling, boxed gifts would be inconvinient.

Never print anything on the invitation, it;s not polite at all. You may suggest your preference, but gifting is ultimatly at the discretion of your guests. Some people will bring boxed gifts anyway, ao you will have to gracious about it.

Best of luck and congratulations

Answer 9

there is no proper phrase for this because it simply isn't proper. it would be clear from your invitation that you expect gifts from everyone....in addition to them having to travel overseas. and some people's budgets simply won't stretch that far.

besides that, give your guests some credit. i think if they are flying overseas to get to your wedding, do you really think they'd lug a mixer along with them?

Answer 10

There's no such way. If you don't include a wedding registry, it's commonly understood that monetary presents would be welcome. At the very most, they'll ask your parents or elders and they can just politely tell them to bring money since you're just starting your lives.

Answer 11

Sorry to say, but there is no proper phrase for this.  It's always rude to speak of gifts on the wedding invitations, and even more so to ask for a specific gift!

The only way to do this is to wait for people to ask.  When they do, you can inform them about the luggage restrictions and their preferences by word of mouth.  Other than that, guests must be allowed to choose the gift they give, not be dictated to.

Answer 12

Are you kidding me?!

Firstly--just because you are getting married overseas does not mean that it is okay in any way to request monetary gifts.  It is not an exception--"Oh, I'm getting married in another country so that makes it okay to just ask for money."

Secondly--there simply ISN'T a polite or nice way to simply ask for monetary gifts.  It's rude to dictate to your guests what they should be giving and even ruder to simply ask for money.

Don't register anywhere.  I'm sure your guests are smart enough to figure out what to give...especially considering it's in another country.

You should not assume that it is ever okay to ask for money as a gift and be able to put it in an invitation and as long as you word it all cutesy and nice that it'll fly over well with all.

Answer 13

Gimme money for the wedding present, gimme it now so I don't have to carry it back from the wedding. And I can can spend it on the wedding if you hurry up and give it to me now.