What is the proper protocall?

Question

i do not have a planner for my wedding. my uncle is a preacher and is preforming the ceremony. who conducts the rehearsal. who tells who where to go and what to do????

Answer 1

Well, for the ceremony details, your uncle could probably help out, since he has likely performed weddings before and knows how they generally go.  I would recommend the 3 of you (you, your uncle and your fiance) have a meeting and decide how you all want the ceremony to go.  Then, at the rehearsal, you will all 3 be able to guide everyone on what should happen without confusion.

Answer 2

YOUR USHERS can tell people what to do!  It's not that hard, everyone has been to a wedding before, people generally know what to do.  

Answer 3

It is the job of the minister.  He's the one who knows.  He has done this before.

Answer 4

well he can give you a basic outline of who stands where and the process if he has done weddings before.  and you can put together what you'd like and let your party know from there at the rehearsal.  

Answer 5

Girl, you do it...lol

You can also ask you MOH to step in here and help you out.

If you don't know what to do, go to google and see what others recommend and incorporate that into your big day.

Answer 6

it's up to you to decide the flow of the ceremony.  your pastor can only help with the vows.  you tell people whether to sit or stand at the altar, if the bridesmaids walk down the aisle alone or with the groomsmen, at what point in the ceremony you'll do a unity candle (stupid) or have friends do readings, etc

Answer 7

How funny... my uncle also was my officiant, and I didn't have a planner.  However, the wedding was in my in-laws backyard, and my husband's brother volunteered to coordinate for us.  I gave him everything he needed, though... itinerary, plans, lists, everything.  He just executed our wishes.  He was perfect.

You may not have a planner, but if you can't find a friend or relative to do it for free, you may want to look into hiring a "day-of coordinator".  Shouldn't be too expensive, and may be worth the peace of mind.

Answer 8

Will the ceremony be at the same place as the reception?  Sometimes the event manager (the person who represents the venue) also knows a lot about ceremonies and who does what.  

But here is what I have observed:

Ushers escort female guests to their seats (bride's side on left, groom's on right)

Best man and groom wait at altar

Mother of bride is escorted by a distinguished male guest (her son for example, if he is not also a groomsman) to her seat

Mother of groom and father of groom together

Grandparents, if applicable

Flower girl and ring bearer to the altar (although sometimes they come before the MOH)

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen together in pairs, split at altar and line up with first bridesmaid and groomsman standing in the outermost position at the alter, filling in toward center

MOH alone, taking innermost spot before bride's spot at altar

Bride and Father (or whomever is her escort)

Answer 9

I was at a wedding this weekend and the minister basically directed the rehearsal. He went through the program and explained what would happen during each step, and then he had us walk through it. An aunt of the bride offered to stand at the back and keep track of when the bridal party should enter the church, both during the rehearsal and during the actual ceremony.

If you need someone to do this, just pick a responsible relative who doesn't have another role (for example, your mom would not be a good choice - she needs to sit at the front of the church). But the minister who is performing the ceremony is perfectly capable of walking everyone through it unassisted.

Answer 10

Typically, the planner will walk you through the processional and order of things, They do this for a living and can tell you about where to stand and where people should go etc. That's not really the job of your uncle, who is a minister and not a wedding planner. If he can be present, that would be awesome!, but really, the wedding planner will be more knowleagebale of the venue and where you shoudl stand or do.

Good luck

PS/ Gosh, why people are thumbing me down? Anyway, it seems that the asker actually knows about this and that's why she's asking. Anyway, to answer to your question, since you do not have a day-of planner, most people that do that do it themselves or ask a relative to act as the planner. My advice is for you to have an idea of what you want done and the timing for people to go down the aisle and teh order of things. Then print it out and let your relative/friend instruct people to go from X point escorted by Y and stand by Z place. It's really not rocket science and I commend you for thinking ahead. You are a well informed bride and you know that your uncle is not going to tell yoru flowers girls where to stand ...it;s really not his job. Congratulations and best of luck!

Answer 11

The minister is in charge of the rehearsal.

Answer 12

I would met up with your uncle before the rehearsal to go over how you would like the ceremony to go - readings, vows, etc.

Then once you have that in order he will be able to conduct the rehearsal. If he has performed weddings before then he will know exactly what to do and how to guide you and the bridal party.

I would give him a call and ask him about the rehearsal and ask if he needs you two to do any prep work for the ceremony. He might have everything all planned out or he may want a little more direction.