What is the right thing to do if you literally cannot stop thinking about your ex bf, whos ur best mate too

Question

I have been on and off with a guy for 7 yrs and i recently went travelling for 2 months to forget him. However i spent those 2 months thinkin non stop about him. and now im home i still cant stop. We are perfect together and have never stopped loving each other in 7 yrs except we are so very different and argue bout silly things and jealousy, which is so mad as we only have eyes for one another and have never cheated.

We are perfect but only for few months then something goes wrong between us, but we cant stay away. What can you do when u cant live with or without, i love him so much and hes only one i see myself marrying or having baby with. Should i just face facts and cut this man out my life and try move on? I have tried, it just seems impossible for us both...help

Answer 1

What yo need to realize is that nothing  lasts forever and when you hang on to relationships because your scared to move on you just keep going round in circles! Trust me ive been there lots and you just have to move on. Just start living your life, don't get me wrong you cant avoid the pain you will feel but feel it and then let those emotions go and move on to the next part of your  life! Please don't be scared of change just embrace it and you will learn that you are strong enough to deal with it. All the best.

Answer 2

Try to move on, and if you can't try to talk and try to be open with each other.

Answer 3

no,u work on your relationship,,dont give up on true love,,it might never come around again,,,when u both start to fight about something try writing down everything that makes u mad that  he dose,,n then have him do the same,,then u give him your paper n he gives u his,,u pic a subject to talk about,,it helped  me n my hubby out 20 years aago,,we r now going 35years strong,,peace

Answer 4

I really feel for you. Theres no easy way to go about solving your problem. In a way though you answered your own question. Things keep going wrong over silly little issues and although you love each other its likely that it just isnt meant to be. Put an end to your suffering for the long term and just stay away. I know you will find it hard but trying to stay together will be much harder on both of you. Give yourself a break and just move on! Not easy I know... My heart goes out to you. Good luck : )

Answer 5

If oyu love him - dont let him gho - i am in the same situation and right now going through the bad patch but i pray every day that we get through it and work it out - if you love him dont let him gfo

Answer 6

i feel your pain, i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs 2months ago now

and its a lot easier as the days go on,

keep yuorself busy

meet friends, go out EVERYDAY,

get a job, go to the park

learn a sport

a langague, learn salsa anything

i have joined meetup.com and joined loads of groups to get myself out in the world meeting new people, evey moment is filled in order to take my mind off him,

and no other guy that approaches me seems to compare which is the wrong attitude i should be having but im working on it!

good luck girl, keep your head up it will get easier, also speak to your friends, they are so useful in times like these