What is the right thing to do?

Question

If you know you are in love with someone else your whole life but is married to another person who loves you, what would you do? My husband showers me with all the comforts in life but still, I am not happy. I feel empty inside. I still long for the love of my life. What should I do?

Answer 1

Think about why you want the other person.  Was is a high school sweetheart or a brief fling?  If they were the love of your life why weren't you the love of theirs?  Were you already married?  You say your whole life?  Sometimes the grass just seems greener on the other side because well it is.  In terms of grass...sometimes your St. Augustine grass is scratchy.  You have to water it, and nuture it, but it can stand up to the blazing hot sun and a dry summer.  Your golf course greens, well those are lush and soft, but if you were the guy out there cutting that grass it would be a pain in the butt too.  Maybe that was a bad metaphor, but it's like this your life is your life....with bills, and chores, all of the day to day things you have to do to survive.  Maybe with your "love" you never had to do the day to day things, so everything was carefree.  You won't get your happiness from someone else.  Geez comedy shows are only an hour long, no one can be happy all the time.  The point here is why are you empty?  Why can't you talk to your husband about your needs, who knows maybe he can rock your world, or maybe he feels empty too.  Do you stay because you have kids, religious issues or finances or because you feel complacent?  You aren't doing your husband any favors by staying in an unhappy marriage.  Think about what's going on.  Go to counseling or clergy or a friend.  Talk to your husband.  Don't chase a dream or a fairy tale.  If you and your "love" were meant to be, then why didn't you find a way?  You need to focus on what is making you empty first.  

Answer 2

Well, don't know why you married him, when you're in love with this other person your WHOLE LIFE? That's unfair for your husband, you now feel some regret, just imagine what he will go through if you tell him this. Just be happy with what you have, some people wish they had what you have, but will never get it.

Answer 3

Sometimes when we just seek to find our own happiness, those who love us can lose theirs. And then our own happiness becomes impossible. It is your choice, and the consequences are your responsibility.

Answer 4

Think about it. You're living with someone you are truly in love with. You think they feel the same way back. Wouldn't it suck though if they didn't? If you were spending all of your life with them, not knowing they did not feel that way about you. You deserve to have someone who not only respects you but loves you just as much. You need to know they love you back. Just as he needs to know you love him...but you don't. He could be with someone who loves him back right now. You should talk to him. Otherwise, this relationship will continue to be a lie.

P.S. I blabber too much.

Answer 5

a relationship has to be were both persons love each other talk too him

Answer 6

That a price of expectations that someone will make you happy...Nothing may bring you happiness unless you learn to make yourself happy without involvement of others....

Answer 7

I will get a divorce

Answer 8

You should talk to your husband about the situation and work things out before you ever think about doing anything else. You made your vows for life, and you best honor them. You would have a much more legitimate argument for thinking about going to your other "love" so to speak if you have spent alot of time trying to get your husband to understand yet he neglects to hear you out.

Answer 9

look deep inside urself and follow ur heart

Answer 10

why did you marry him. do you not love him. dont do stuff while still being married. talk to him about it. maybe he is giving you lack of comfort as a husband.