What is the survival rate for second marriage with autistic child?

Question

What is the survival rate for second marriage with autistic child?

Answer 1

Only about 20% of marriages with disabled children survive - so I would assume the percentage would be no better for second marriages.

Answer 2

thats a very specific question,

but all in all it depends on the marriage.

if you even have to ask probably not long...

Answer 3

my friend is in his second marriage, it is his wifes first, and they have an autistic son who is 5. they have been together for 13 years now and all is going good. she had to quit working because they have 3 kids and with the autism it is alot to handle. they have learned alot from it. he is much more patient and understanding now then he was before.

Answer 4

second marriages is around 40%, with a gifted child full of love, a lot higher!

"it just takes work"  mother said "love is like learning to play the organ, you just have to pratice it a lot and it will happen">

Answer 5

I heard the rate of failure for the first marriage with an autistic child is about 80% which is really sad.  I'm sure the second wouldn't be much better.

Answer 6

Well with all first marriages the chances of divorce are about 50%, and adding Autism into the factor only increases those odds.

As for second marriages.  I believe the divorce rate (w/ out having a child with Autism) is about 75%.  I would imagine with the added stress emotionally, financially and physically it may increase those odds.  I don't claim to be an expert, but that is my guess.  Who knows, there may be no added % due to Autism, since in this marriage you are both aware of any "problems" that may arise before you say "I do."  This not being the same in your first marriage, since you were more than likely kind of blind sided by the diagnosis of Autism.

Best Wishes.  You may want to speak with a family counselor about your concerns, make sure both of you are on the same page and understand the weight of the issue involved before tying the knot.  Who knows, marriage may not be the best fit, and it is much easier to determine that now, than to put your family and yourself through the emotional strain of divorce.

Answer 7

depend on the level of selfishness[autistics,especially young ones take a lot of work]this leaves very little time for a partner or a self-serving lifestyle.if you are both accepting the situation,probably 4ever.if not,DONT get married.

Answer 8

Same as any marriage - it doesn't matter if your child is austistic or brown haired, they shouldn't play a major role in your marriage.

Yes, I think that it takes a lot of energy and time to focus on the child and make sure he/she is learning what they need. But parents should work on their relationship as much as they work on the child's learning abilities.

A coworker has an autistic child and got married several years ago - they are both giong strong.