What is the word to describe a person doing this....... ?

Question

Okay, i am looking for the word, or a word describing when someone questions your judgment, your ability, or your decisions.. Actually here is an example of the exact situation. I volunteer to whatch 3-4 yr. old kids at church, and usually the parents are kind, and thankful. I put my very best effort into taking care of them. However, once in a while there will be a parent who seems to question my ability or my tactics .. For instance i had one parent questioning me about what i teach them, and how i go about it.. almost quizing me, and making suggestions on how i should do it better, even though she has never been there with me during the class. It literally drives me crazy. That is what i am talking about, i am not sure what exactly that is called when a person does that. Another situation was, i had a kid sitting in the hall and wouldn't come in the class room, after a few minutes of trying to persuade him to come in, i decided to just pick him up and bring him in, well as i was trying to get him, another parent who came to drop their kid off said "i would be careful picking him up if i was you", i asked "what do you mean?" He just said "I would just be careful picking him up" insinuating i was being too rough or something.? I absolutely hate when parents do that because they don't know how much i have to put into doing my best to take care of their kids..

anyway.. if someone can help me with the word to describe what these ppl are doing when they do that.. that would be most helpful! thank you for taking the time...

Answer 1

undermining, maybe.

They are certainly acting in a way that undermines your authority.

They are also "interfering" but that is probably not the word you are looking for.

"criticizing" might be true too,albeit subtle criticism

Answer 2

It sounds like "patronizing" or "belittling" to me.

Answer 3

I used to work for a day care about 7yrs ago, so I can sympathize with you when it comes to the inquisitive and judgmental parents of the children. As far as the parent insinuating something inappropriate by his comment about picking the child up, I would make a suggestion to have the head person in charge have a time out class for any child miss behaving. I know the stresses of being the only adult in the classroom and I'm sorry but 10-14 kids is to many for one adult. I think the ratio is 8/1 if I'm not mistaken and your a volunteer. If they want to loose the second volunteer I suggest the program make some changes. or make a suggestion that some parents volunteer do to the lack of help. I don't know if I answered your question but that frustrates me, to know that your ability is being question and you have no help.

I hope every thing goes well

Answer 4

belittling. your age might be the issue or maybe it could be a trust issue since you have only been there a year. maybe the parents have not learned to trust you yet?   i ran into a very similar issue in being a medic in the national guard. you would think 22 years as a medic and having been a war vet would have earned myself the right to not be questioned about my back ground let alone my decisions. people are weird it seems that some times you just can not please all the people some of the time. adults can be as childish as their children and  some times just ignoring them is best.