What is the worst thing about being bullied?

Question

for me, i feel it shatters my confidence, and destroys my interpersonal skills, as well as other people's impression of me. e.g. suppose i meet someone new, they will ask me why i have no friends, and then see me as someone vulnerable who they can take advantage of.

it sux

how about for you guys?

Answer 1

It does suck and it is unfair, but please realize that once you are out in the "Real World" you wont have to put up with such childish behavior.  Remember, if you let it get you down, you are giving them what they want, to make you feel inferior, so they wont feel inferior.  

Answer 2

Wow. You said that so well. I think the worst part is that erodes your confidence in yourself and others. Your trust declines. Your self-esteem goes down.

It's the suck.

For anyone to try and make another human feel like that- they have to have serious issues.

Or the same issues. Sometimes what hurts us most is what we try and hurt others with. Sometimes how we feel ourselves is how we try and make others feel.

Answer 3

The worst bit is when they don't even care who you are, and you're nothing but a punching bag to them, and you're reminded of this every single time you see them, regardless of whatever it is they're doing at the time.

The best bit is deciding that they haven't got anything better to do.

Answer 4

The same.

Being bullied can destroy whatever self-esteem you may have in the first place, and cause you to be hesitant and indecisive rather than sure of yourself and a leader rather than a follower.

That's what it did to me, and I lost a very special lady because of my own indecisiveness - because I was so afraid of doing the wrong thing that I did nothing.

The trick, my friend, is to learn how to rise ABOVE being bullied, recognize that you are being bullied because the bully himself (or herself, as the case may be) is afraid of what you represent, and be confident in what you believe in.  Make friends with people who are in no way associated with the bully (for example: if you are being bullied in school, build your circle of friends OUTSIDE of school), and choose people who will not take advantage of you.

Just remember (and as one who was bullied, I know it's hard to do this, but if you don't, it will suck for a lot longer than the bullying does): The bully is chiefly trying to build his own sense of self-worth by tearing down yours; if you stop "letting" him bully you (and trust me: it is YOU who are enabling his bullying - no one else), and stand up for yourself and what you believe in, then he will either have to go bully someone else, or learn how to constructively make himself feel better WITHOUT having to resort to making someone else feel worse - the way that small children do, only because they know no better.

Good luck, my friend.  YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 5

I was bullied at school, and it impaired my self esteem, so that in later years it was difficult to realign my view of my self, or have a strong opinion within myself. I'd always listen to other people, rather than myself, because I thought the bully must be right, because he/she is more overpowering.

Answer 6

Feeling worthless

Answer 7

same as you

Answer 8

Well.. For me, as well, it's the confidence. I mean, I never let the bullies stop me completely from doing what I do or being who I am, but they did affect my confidence. And I hate that.

Also, how unfair it is in general. Some people really don't deserve to be bullied. Usually it's the bullies that deserve to be bullied.

And, of course, the image they make me. You know what I mean, right? Other people would start thinking I'm weak and easy to play with. That's just f*cked up.

Answer 9

i feel like a useless numb..

but i talked to them before thats why they aren't

bullying me now..