What is the worst thing you could say to a depressed person?

Question

one of my old friends is really depressed about her mother dying (even though it's been years) and when she finally got the courage to talk to a counselor, she was told there weren't enough of them to listen to her. I think that's really hard on a depressed person, being turned away when they're reaching out for help..

Answer 1

Dude,

Im going to focus on what to say and do.

Say...youre there for her...no matter what!

Do....embrace her with your arms and be for there.

My mom died years ago and I still havent had the courage to open up then again Ive had so many friends that have been  there for me and instilled positive feedback on me.  

Comfort her with your loving arms!!! The pain of loosing a loved one never goes away.

Answer 2

well, just tell her that there are two options: either she continues being sad and crying, starts drinking, becomes an alcoholic and ****** dies, or she moves on, thinks about getting a job, creating a family, having kids....and tell her to ask herself which one of these options would her mom want her daughter to choose...

it's that simple... life is a **** sandwich, eat it or starve!!!

Answer 3

get over it.- never say that.

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Answer 4

be happy, don't worry

Answer 5

yeah, get over it seems to be the worst thing to say. followed by be optimistic and stop living in the past.

is your friend able to afford private counselors? as long as you're willing to pay, there won't be lack of therapists willing to help.  

Answer 6

The worst thing you can say to a depressed person is to label them "emo." It's such a ridiculous label and it makes me furious when there are thousands of genuinely depressed people out there and when they are brave enough to reach out for help or advice on websites like this one, people say things like, "Oh, it'll pass. Just a phase. Don't worry about it" and "LOL u emo." That really frustrates me. I hope your friend finds someone to talk to. Send her my best wishes!

Answer 7

this is herd for her it seems just be a Friend and be there  for her

Answer 8

why don't you go take a dirt nap?

Answer 9

i think the worst thing to say to a depressed peron is to stop being depressed cuz u have a perfect life... cuz obviously if u r depressed u dnt have a perfect life

Answer 10

"i dont care" or "i dont care about you"

Answer 11

stop being a cry baby and get over it

Answer 12

well i do know never to tell a suicidal person that if they were serious they would have done it by now! i used to volunteer on a suicide hot-line, and a co worker actually said that to a caller. the guy would call every night, some times a couple of times a night. he was drunk and just rambled on. this night the volunteer had a bad night and was frustrated, the unmistakeable sound of a gun shot was heard and we kept the lines open until the fireman first on the scene hung up the phone. that person no longer is a volunteer, and that fella no longer calls...................anyone.

Answer 13

the worst thing you can say to a depressed person is "cheer up"

Answer 14

The worst thing to say to a depressed person is: Snap out of it!(or get over it)

My dad said that to me and it made me feel like ****, even more.

In reply to your story:

Thats rough! The last thing a depressed person wants is to be treated like they arn't important enough for the one thing they need.

I suggest she call a councilor/depression helpline where she can talk on the phone to a councilor on the phone. I'm sure there is one in your country.

Answer 15

"You've got no reason to be depressed".

There's always a reason.

Answer 16

You deserve it.

Which is a sickening thing to say.

I think nobody deserves depression, nor do I believe someone needs to earn the right to be happy.