What is thre right thing to do for a maid of honor at the bridal shower?

Question

Is it poor form to not buy a gift? or should I? I already spent over 250 on the dress/accessories/hair/shoes, and spent 150 dollars on her bachelorette party (paid for her outfit, the games, the hotel, some of her drinks, practically everything).

So should I still buy her a gift? I dont' mind if I should, but I've already spent so much on the wedding, and it's not even mine!! lol.

Answer 1

You don't really have to. Because you being the maid of honor is gift enough. But you could buy a lil token for her. It could be little like her fragance of perfume for taht day. Or it could be just a poem or a card. But you have done your part and she probably appreciates you for all youve done already.

Answer 2

I guess people are saying it's okay and i guess it is.. i still think if you take the time and at least get a photo in a frame for her at the very least.

friend of mine got married and no one in her bridal show gave her anything. her maid of honor is her sister not sure if they gave gifts...

But i look at this way i am giving my bridal party a gift too... and i plan on spending a little bit of cash for my dress and stuff... but i asked my peeps if they want to be in it they could say no.. i know it would be hard to do that but regardless.

but you did a lot with out help... so a something litttle is 100% acceptable...

Answer 3

Yes, you should.  Unfortunately you got stuck with the most expensive wedding position aside from the bride and groom.  (I probably would have skipped the bachelorette party.  She didn't really need one of those.  Plus I have heard that in some cases the bride and groom actually pays for the wedding party's dresses, accessories, hair, shoes, etc.)  You don't need to spend a lot though.  Maybe a $25 gift card to a Bed, Bath, and Beyond store or something like that.

Answer 4

Hmm...you paid for her bachelorette party outfit?  Was this an ensemble of some sort, or kind of a fun costume?  I agree with Jennifer that the MOH ends up with some heavy expenses.  Usually, though, the other bridesmaids chip in for the shower and related parties.  If the bridesmaids are chipping in for the shower & gift, you would chip in as well.  If you are the only attendant, then I'd say that you've done enough.  If you feel as though you can't go empty handed, how about giving her the guest book? ( For some fun perspective on this all, see the "27 Dresses" movie, if you haven't already).

Answer 5

In fact the bride's mother should pay for all these. What you have paid is the gift. No more gifts.

Answer 6

Yep. But, get the least expensive thing on the registry. That way you're not empty handed but they'll understand you were tapped out.

Answer 7

I agree.  Get your friend a token gift.  Something personal...not a rice cooker or placemats.  

Get her something from Brighton Collectibles...like a charm bracelet or a compact for her purse.  You can find something really nice for less than $50.

Answer 8

if you have planned the whole shower, it's probably fine to get a nice card, and write something sweet inside. It sounds like you've paid for a lot, and the bride probably knows. She'll get all the cookware and linens she can handle, anyway.