What is up with parents?

Question

Before I get into what I need answers to, I'll give you a backstory.

Backstory: My mom left for another man in 1999 and my parents recently got back together dec of 2007.

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I just don't get my parents sometimes. One minute they're both all lovey dovey and cant keep their hands to themselves and the next, they're not speaking.

Another thing is that they both know they need Marriage Counseling but when one suggests it, the other says no. My mom first suggested it and my dad said no. About a week ago, my dad suggested it and my mom said no. I dont get it!

It's very stressful in the house and it's very hard to be around either of them even when they're alone.

Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions about what to do with this situation or if anyone else has gone through this, can you please share your story with me?

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Answer 1

well it depends on what type of parents you have. my cozin went on the sane thing. and he got along ok. he got back together after he found out she was pregnent with his baby. they are hapilally livin together now

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This sounds like the Jerri Springer show...I just say keep a postive out look for yourself and as soon as you can make it on your own graduate high school get a job......RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

Answer 4

Do you want them together or not?

If you do then you need to step in and tell them they both need counseling.  And if they don't get counseling  you will move out because you can't take it anymore.  That should motivate them and or let you know how they truly feel about your feelings.

If you don't then just let them keep doing what they are doing.  Eventually they will split up again.

If you're to young to move out then there really isn't much you can do about the situation other than let them know how you feel about it.

Answer 5

maybe theyre stressed out cuz of their jobs

Answer 6

My parents are EXACTLY the same. They agree with each other one minute and argue the next. It's been 16 years like that but it seems that all they need is to listen to eachother, be open-minded and not to shout at the other even before he/she finishes his/her sentence or suggestion. If the problem seems to be getting worse, interfere a little. Like when you're mother would suggest something, encourage your dad to do what you your mom suggested so that there would be less chances of an argument. It had helped me once. I hope it will help you too.

Answer 7

learn to love them because they are your only two most importance in the world to rely on. blood can't cut!  

Love is giving and Forgiving..

once they are old you will realize how lovely are them ..like i do.

Answer 8

Talk to them about how much it stresses you out.  BUT Let me say that my fiance and I sometimes don't speak to each other.  The not speaking is better than things we could say that would really hurt each other's feelings.  We use the 'not speaking' time to calm down.

We love each other very much, and having disagreements is healthy.  However if what they do is affecting you, then you definately need to speak up.  They would for sure want to know, and will appreciate it.

Answer 9

maybe you should try telling them how you feel and how they stress you out, because its not fair to you to have to go through all that.

Answer 10

hi, sounds like they both need to grow up. paulie

Answer 11

It sounds like your parents have a power struggle, maybe you should tell them how you feel. usually when people separate and get back together they have some superiority or trust issues. it could be that either of them feel like they get frustrated when the other suggests it because they feel inferior that they need help with something, you should suggest it to them, sincerely, without attitude, in a non- subtle but non-yelling voice

Answer 12

try to talk to them.. have a family meeting.. talk about houw you feel, they are probbly so consumed with themselves and eachother that they can't get recognize their actions, if they know they are affecting you in a negative way... they may do something about their issues..

or secretly set a meeting with a family consuler, and have them go with you.. so you can all talk about stuff..

Answer 13

nothing

Answer 14

adults are worse then kids sometimes

Answer 15

Very true that it is not your fault, their issues are not yours, what you can do, is be your best, and try to relieve some of the stress in your house, help out alittle more and ask if there is anything you can do to help them, what about writing them a letter to the both of them, telling them that it makes you sad when they are struggling and that you would be happy if they went to counseling bc you want them to smile!

Answer 16

Wow, that is...interesting...

whenever something similar happens with my parents, I tell them straight up how I feel

such as..wow, you guys are retarded. just try and do something that's productive...and this is coming from an asian family...you know, all that is VERY disrespectful but you know, they yell back at me, but I just ignore it, just try to do what you can

Answer 17

sometimes, the same thing happens to me. the thing is, parents fight. there really isnt anything to do about it. i know that both my brother and i get really upset when my parents are fighting, but things are the way they are. both my parents always told me that fighting is healthy because it gets your partner to know your side of the story. if this really is as bad as you say, then maybe talk to them. think about it, they arent going to feel weird about you wanting to talk to them. they are your parents. it could make all the difference in the long run. maybe sit them down at dinner, and really plan out some things you want to tell them about, but make it from the heart. look into some counseling ideas, and if you are old enough, call a counselor and talk to them yourself about how you are feeling. once school starts again (if your still in school) you can talk to one of your own counselors too, and have them plan a day for you to have both your parents come in and talk to them too. its all about what you are willing to do to help, but remember, this is their problem. not yours.

god bless you and your family. im sure everything will be fine in the long run.