What is up with this???

Question

I meet this guy in early fall who happens to be in the military his base is over 1000 miles from were I live. One of my friends is a friend of his. We keep in touch and talked at first through email and then over the phone. I was going to be visiting a friend 3 hours from his base in early February, and I went to go see him for a couple of days. we were both adamant about not having s*x because we wanted to remain friends, and didn't want things to get weird. He also didn't want to have a long distance relationship because he lives so far away and his last girlfriend cheated on him. But he said that if I lived closer to him he would want to be in a relationship with me.

We ended up going out one night drinking with some of his friends, and drank a lot! Anyways.... we ended up having s*x, it was awesome, for about 4 hours. The next day I saw him and we got dinner, everything was ok, both of us were tired and hung over. I'm ok with the fact that this happened because I know this guy is not a jerk and he does seem to care about me, he still calls, etc....

Now that I am back home we have been talking quite a bit. And he came to see me for a couple of days a few weeks ago, and we didn't have s*x haha. I get a lot of text messages from him as well. Sometimes we have really nice conversations about all sorts of stuff, and other times we get into these fights about the dumbest stuff, like the way someone acts or says something. I must say I am very glad to get so much attention. But I am a little confused because he says he doesn't want a relationship, and this really feels like one.

I tried to tell him that and for some reason he got really upset with me and we have been arguing again for a day and a half, He'll tell me not call or text him and then send me a message. Of course at times I will respond if he really makes me mad. He says he doesn't want to talk to me, but will still send a message every so often. If a guy doesn't want to talk to you, don't they just ignore you? And not talk to you? What is up with this?

Answer 1

It sounds like you 2 are falling in love. Give it time and nourish it.

Answer 2

Summarize and repost.  I'm not reading all of that.

Answer 3

He's probably just as confused as you are.  How about having a calm "friendly" conversation, and trying to work it out like sane people?

Answer 4

Don't look to strangers for answers, turn to friends and family, surely there's someone real and personal to turn to?

BTW, just because a guy says he doesn't want to talk to you doesn't mean he dislikes, he might need space.

Are you sure he totally blew off *that night* and accepted it?

Then again, "Don't want to talk" could be his way of casually separating from you, without saying it outright!

Ah well... hope things work out anyway.

Try to take it easy on the drinking okay.