What is/was the MOST STRESSFUL part of your wedding planning?

Question

My wedding is August 30th, 23 days away now... and so far the ONLY thing that has stressed me out beyond belief is RSVPs....

People calling, texting, emailing, messages thru myspace instead of sending i the card... I put a d**n stamp on there, all you have to do it mail it in!!!!!!! Is that too hard??

Part of that stress is I have to meet a $5500 food cost minimun and thats exactly 200 people... so I HAVE to meet that quota.

But... for YOU, whats been or was your most stressful part of your wedding planning?

Answer 1

Honestly, everything has been great EXCEPT:

Dealing with an uncooperative bridesmaid.  She hates wearing dresses, she hates taking pictures, yet she still wants to be in the wedding.  It was a hassle just for me to take her to get the dress and she didn't even want me to see her in it!!  I gave her so many opportunities for an easy out but she still wants to be a part of the wedding party.  If she acts up that day, Im going to go crazy!!

Answer 2

knowing that im getting married!

Answer 3

Good question I hear about the RSVP some people didn't even respond back and some begged for invites. But the most stressful was the mothers especially his making special requests changing her flowers when I already ordered them.

Wanted a certain type of flowers for me but the florist wouldn't change it because she already ordered it. The wedding was 2 months away.

Hmm what else having people cancel the last minute.

The church programs were a pain.

THE BRIDAL PARTY STRESSED ME THE MOST. Had to quick one girl out because she was out of hand.

Things went wrong that day. And now stressing that I still don't have my pics. My wedding was June 21st.

Answer 4

Nothing has really been too stressful. We are planning a wedding at our church with a simple cake and punch reception in the fellowship hall after. I guess the most stressful would be trying to guesstimate how many people will actually be attending. We sent 60 invitations, but one went to my office, one to his department at the hospital and one to our church newsletter. We plan for about 125-150. The woman doing the reception says that she bakes her cakes with pieces twice the size as the recommendations, so if need be, she can cut smaller pieces if the crowd is larger than we anticipate.  

Answer 5

people telling me what to do and how to do things that were suppose to make me happy for my own wedding. Glad it's all over. Congratulations.

Answer 6

Never planned a wedding for myself, personally, but my twin sister recently got married and I was her Maid of Honor. Holy c**p weddings are stressful!! It made me decide to hold an immediate family ceremony only lol (well, that and the fact that my boyfriend is from Australia and we've already discussed how expensive it'll be for his family to come out as it is lol).

I'd probably say that in dealing with my sister's wedding, the most stressful part was getting the wedding party to do everything that was needed....mainly the groomsmen and ushers. All they had to do basically was get to the taylor's by a certain date to get measured for their tuxes and by that required date, only 3 guys had done it (there was a total of 8-9, including ushers) and one of the 3 was the groom! So my sister and mom got all these calls from the taylor's asking why they rest of them hadn't shown up.

You're right, RSVP's are a pain in the butt as well...luckily, my sister doesn't have myspace or texting and most people don't know her email address so she didn't have to deal with those. How rude though, for people to assume that that's an ok way to RSVP for a WEDDING!

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding though! All the stress is forgotten when your day actually comes =D (well, for you anyway, which is all that matters lol). Have fun!!!

Answer 7

At least people are contacting you to let you know if they're coming.  Over half the people we sent invitations to didn't respond at all, and we put a stamp on as well.  

We had a lot fewer people come than we were expecting and went below the quota for the caterers as well.  We just bought a bunch of tupperware containers to the site and took a lot of extra food home with us.  It was no big deal.  When it came time for the wedding, it actually seemed to make it nicer to have fewer people there rather than having more people that we weren't that close to anyway.

I think the most stressful part for me was coordinating what the bridal party was going to wear.  We put off making a final decision on the outfits for too long and then people were having a hard time finding stuff.  It ended up coming together really well though, and everybody looked much lovelier than I'd been expecting.

Answer 8

We had a small, intimate wedding with 50 of our closed friends and family. There really wasn't anything stressful about it.

Aside from the fact that we got married in January and I had to wait until after the holidays to get a lot of things done.. so my time frame was shortened.

Answer 9

Choosing which bleached blonde bimbo to get to know better at the bachelor party was my biggest decision.  Fortunately the decision was made for me.  I had the 3 of them all at once..

Answer 10

I had a couple of stressful bridesmaid issues.

The most stressful thing were the RSVPs. Two particular stick out in my mind:

1) The day after we paid the final payment on our venue (food and whatnot), a cousin of mine calls my mother (why they didn't call me I don't know) to tell her that another cousin and his mother are no longer coming because his brother is going to be there and they don't get along. The worst part is, the cousin who wouldn't go is in his 40s and the mother is in her 60s, but they are not mature enough to call themselves...or even to put their petty fights behind them for a few hours (it's not like we were sitting them together!) In the end, the mother did show up but cousin did not. I never heard from him personally, and he hasn't shown up at any family events since.

2) My husband's uncle sent in his RSVP with a yes for himself and a no for his wife. The day after the cousin issue, Uncle's wife calls my husband's father (again, I don't know why people are afraid to call us, the ones planning/paying for this wedding!) and TELLS him that we can just send her a meal home with her husband!!! Like we were just going to plop down $100 (the per person price, which covered more than just food at the venue) for someone who RSVP'd that they were not coming so she can get a free meal. I could not believe it! Uncle also showed up to rehearsal dinner even though he was not invited.

Other than dealing with the few rude people mentioned above, the wedding was stress free. The day was great, couldn't have gone any better.

Answer 11

I would say family, they were fairly demanding as to what they wanted or what they prefered. We were the ones paying for it so I shouldnt have to take specific date requestes and feel I have to pay for all my family to travel to my wedding. Annoying.

Answer 12

The RSVPs were a minor issue to me, but a major one for my fiance.  I realized later that all the people we hadn't heard from were Mormon (which I was raised as), and I don't think they go to weddings where they have to RSVP and have assigned seating, it's usually just a "hello, congratulations, grab some cake and punch and drop off the gift" sort of deal.  So I wasn't mad, I just called them to confirm.  "Why, of course we're coming, you sent an invite, right?"  Lol.

The other huge deal (and which caused the 2 biggest fights we've ever had) was my step-brother's girlfriend's cousin coming in from out of town at the last minute, so my stepmom politely asked me if she could come.  They weren't leaving her at home alone (she was 17) and they'd be gone 2 days.  If I said no, my brother's gf (and their 8 month old daughter) would not be coming either.  So I said yes, because we had room for her, and it wasn't going to cost us anything extra.  But he threw a huge fit about "it's rude to invite yourself" (granted, it is, but she didn't, and it didn't hurt anyone).  Phew... anyway, after I explained the issue to everyone (he insisted on a vote, but didn't think anyone should actually understand the issue, just that some girl's cousin invited herself) they bullied him into accepting.  (His sister, dad, mom, my mom, etc.)

Other than that?  Everything was a breeze.  His brother was our volunteer day-of coordinator, and he did an awesome job.  Of course, my plans and organization (and my 50 Excel spreadsheets) probably helped.  

Answer 13

The most stressful part for me so far has been dealing with certain vendors...  I feel like they are trying to nickel and dime me on everything.  When I tell them that I don't want all the extra stuff that costs the extra money, they throw me some sales tactic to try to eat at my emotions.  This is a very vulnerable time when most brides are really concerned with the "image" of everything.  Good thing for me and my fiance that I'm not as concerned with image as I am about spending a fortune on upgrades that we don't NEED.  They also don't seem to be concerned with what I would like things to look like and how I want it to be.  They are too busy trying to sell me on things that I have already stated that I don't want.  They just don't listen to me at all even when I can get a few words in between their ranting and raving.  These people charge waaaaayyyyy to much for their services, so they need to just shut up and hear what I have to say for once.

I'm sure I'm going to have a major problems with the RSVP's too.  I am the kind of person who wants a timely response, and I want their responses to match their answers (as in saying you will be at the wedding and then actually showing up).

Answer 14

That sounds horrible, I think that's the reason why I just couldn't do the rsvp thing. Even though I wish I had because a lot of the guests never showed up.

I think the most stressful thing was the lady from the boutique where I ordered my flower girl's dresses, invitations and my bouquet. The invitations were on time but mis-typed.

The flower girls dresses and my bouquet were not done until the day before the Wedding. We ordered everything six months before.

That was the worst for me.

Answer 15

The hardest part was convincing my mom-in-law that we really DID want to have a small informal wedding instead of a traditional one.  

Answer 16

I can't find a ceremony site :(  We're just trying to find an outdoor spot with an INCLEMENT WEATHER OPTION somewhere within an hour - hour and 1/2 of us. We're not looking to spend an @$$load of money on it either. Most of the wedding places want to bend you over backwards and I'm just not havin it. We're just looking for a ceremony site... Just the freakin' ceremony! The reception will be indoors at a local hall or something like that, not a problem. But we can't find a spot!! It's proven to be one giant pain. ARGGHH! I wish we had someone in our families with a big enough backyard, but unfortunately we don't.

Answer 17

LOL that is a stressful part.  I agree with the whole stamp thing.  You think by putting a stamp on there they would just mail it in, it only takes two seconds, but they don't.  I think the most stressful for me was in the beginning making all the decisions.  Thankfully my fiance and I are in agreement on everything and quickly.  But my MOH was going through some personal stuff and just wasn't around to help.  That was the most stressful for me.  

Answer 18

Other people telling what I "must" do for my wedding--even when we've made up our minds to do something different. Glad that's behind me.

Answer 19

I would say the most stressful part was the literally hundreds of phone calls we got saying "Don't put me next to so and so", Don't sit me next to Barbara, Don't put Stanley, next to John", blah, blah, blah. It took us about two "Stressful" weeks to get all the tables situated with who to sit where! It was crazy!

Answer 20

Listening to EVERYONE wanting to give their two cents on EVERYTHING and then when I finally pick something like my gown they say c**p like "oh that's cute", still not good enough like it's their wedding!!! Annoying I tell you, annoying!!! I'm annoyed! lol