What is with certain men and woman with their emotional abused with p**n or video games?

Question

I have had great guys who looked at p**n and respected me in my past. Now I have one who I also told was it was ok, I was one who has us watch one together. I have been with him for 8 years on and off...he keeps hiding if from me. I know he does because he starts yelling. Raped me in my sleep after I keep asked him to stop...kept doing it...I found hard p**n by accident on our computer..over and over-its not even when I am looking for it...I try to blame the video games and that they "anger" him. but I dont think most guys are like this...rubbing his thing raw so they can't have s*x with their lovers. So we can't even have s*x...I left...he got me back. Why I am pretty-so what if I am? NO man or woman should be lied to or abused emotionally or physically.

He is just more angry everyday...just like back when. Only now I have an (yeah right) "excuse" I was in a bad car accident. My air bag didn't deploy on time. When my head hurts he treats me with guilt trips that I can't put out. Not that he hurts me with s*x anymore, but "I should put an American Flag in your p***y because I never get it"...I have burns you can't see, just because I don't whine like a baby like he does when his back is hurting...am I wrong to think I am dealing with a sociopath?

Most women claim a headache. He has seen my actual skull-less then 3 months ago...and now everytime I want to have s*x he doesn't want to...but when I am in pain he gives me guilt trips. What am I dealing with?

Answer 1

There is nothing you could do or say to your partner to justify his abusive behavior. You absolutely deserve better.

The pornography is not the core issue. This is domestic violence, and abusive people want control. Any other addiction or issue they might have (mental health issues, p**n addiction, drug/alcohol use, etc.) may make things worse, but they are not the reason for the violence.

Even if he is not physically hurting you, I am worried for your safety with him. You are absolutely right to call his sexual assault while you slept a rape; that is exactly what he did.

s*x in a realtionship is a physical manifestation of your emotional commitment. If you are not in a healthy emotional relationship, how can you have a healthy, safe s*x life? For women especially, emotional safety is linked with sexuality. Your desire to not engage in s*x is a perfectly normal response to his behavior.

After such a terrible accident you need to be around people who love and support you, not one who will manipulate you and your rehabilitation to meet his own needs.

Please consider calling the National Domestic Violence Helpline (1-800-799-SAFE) or visiting the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence's website (www.ncadv.org). You can find more information and local resources. A local domestic violence program can offer free, confidential counseling and help deciding what you want to do next.

Please do not wait. I am very concerned for your safety!

Answer 2

What the?  Call the police if you were raped, why are you on Yahoo! Answers??

Marco!

Answer 3

I can still get it on and get horny with broken bones and sick as a dog.

He does not understand or care that women just don't feel like that.

He no longer wants to impress you and is showing his true colors.