What is (would be) more important to you?

Question

I have just recently gone through a terrible divorce with someone who (basically) took my entire life from me including my children.

I fought very hard for my kids, spending 72 hours a week working trying to pay for the lawyers.

In the end I cracked and I could not work any harder after having spent 8 thousand dollars on lawyers (my annual income was only 11k at the time).

My ex husband now states that I can not see the children unless I come back to Michigan to see them.

Due to financial reasons (no jobs and high unemployment) I could not find a job in Michigan so I had to relocate (after even going through more schooling to attempt to find a higher paying job).

If I go back to Michigan I can not support myself nor can I support my children.

If I want to see my kids I have to go to Michigan to see them.

I don't see how this is fair.

Is there anything I can do?

I am reluctant to spend yet more money on court because I have lost my entire life to this man and I'd like to have something some day.

Answer 1

well you could try to find something along the border of ohio or indiana. the emplyment sucks in michigan. thats why i moved to texas. i think he is doeing this on purpose t opunish you. im so sorry to ehar this. mail back if you want and ill try to help. i know alot of people up there still

Answer 2

IF he was in another state and HE'S the one who moved to MI   it's his responsiblity to pay for the visits.

It doesnt sound like you paid for a good attorney!!

Why not quit your job, move to MI, get on social services, and then you'll ge FREE Legal Aid.

I had a fight for my kids in MI. I wasn't working.  I got the help.  I did have to show some bad marks against him in order to get my kids back, but with proof and witnesses, I got my kids back.

Answer 3

There is NO reason why they cant visit you out of state unless you have been found guilty of something horrible.

File for a modification to the visitation rights.

Just never ever give up.

Answer 4

i wish you'll earn more money and have the custody of your children.

Answer 5

I just want to commend you on being a mother that so many other females need to be like. I can feel your pain, both in your heart and in your pocket.  I personally think that you should go to Michigan and try to make it out there.  I think it will kill you too much to be far away from your children.  At least if you are in Michigan and you can see them, that's like a boost in your life everytime you can see them and they will continue to make you want to strive for better. I will pray for you.  

Answer 6

I understand it to be very hard for a man to get custody of the children. So I have to wonder how that happened. Having said that, you can make good money cleaning houses and doing things like babysitting, dog sitting and a thousand other things. Set your goals on saving enough money to get where you want to be and you will be able to afford to move closer to your children.