What is wrong with feminists? Why do most of them not want to get married or be mothers?

Question

I have seen and heard a lot of feminists say this. What purpose does this serve? Are they just falling into the trap of the elitists?

Answer 1

It's actually works out.  Men don't want to marry or have children with a feminist.

Answer 2

Women who don't want to get married and have children are saving the Earth from the damage that humans do to it.

Answer 3

Thank god?

Answer 4

Earlier today there was a question asking feminists to take responsibility for the fact that many men don't wish to marry.

Here's a perfect example of a double standard:  if men don't want to marry, there's something wrong with women.  If women don't want to marry, there's something wrong with women.

To answer your question, marriage and babies are not the key to every woman's fulfilment.  If they are for you, have at it, but don't try to force your personal preferences on every woman you meet.

Answer 5

who knos? everyone has different beliefs

Answer 6

A lot = most? I'm not sure the majority of feminists do say this, but let's assume they do and this is morally wrong because... um.... err....

Why do other people's choices bother you so much if they are not affecting anyone else? There is nothing wrong with people who make this choice psychologically, it's doesn't fit the criterea of abnormality. In terms of purpose; not to be nilhilistic, but what purpose does marriage or procreation serve? The latter, I suppose, ensures the continuation of pointlessness... But if it makes you happy, it's a valid choice.

Answer 7

There’s nothing wrong with me, I have the right to do with my life what I want, and if I’m not married nor mother , that doesn't make me less woman either less valuable.

Answer 8

Well, I've been married, and I'm a mother. And a feminist. So I'm not sure where you're getting your ideas from.

Answer 9

IF a person decides not to marry and/or have children, it MAY be because they understand the personal sacrifices one must make to keep a relationship like that healthy, and to raise children.  You really have to give a lot of yourself, and a lot of people decide not to make those lifestyle changes. They just prefer that lifestyle they have.  It's hard to pick up and go skiing, enjoy a quiet day reading on the beach, hike, have quiet dinners, keep a nightlife, and so many other things when you have young children.

Its like deciding whether to live in the country or the city, it is simply the style of life you have chosen and thank goodness for all the different kinds of people that there are, it would be so boring if EVERYONE had kids, or EVERYONE didn't have kids, or everyone lived in cities or countries etc.

Answer 10

Whats wrong with feminist...well for us to communicate with you we need to start doing drugs.  Some how understanding your babbling thoughts isn't that important to me.

Many feminist are wifes, and mothers.  Some arnt, we gave women the choice to have it one way or another.

Please dont have kids, drugs are bad for babies brains.

Answer 11

Women should have the choice to have a career or be a  house wife or to not got married or get married. If women HAD to stay home then they feminists should fight that. But women have a choice and if it is to be a house wife feminists shouldn't have a problem with that because it is there freedom of choice so they should be happy they got to choose something they liked instead of being forced to

Answer 12

There are a TON of things wrong with feminists. Not wanting to be a mother or to get married isn't one of them.

Answer 13

To the extreme feminst, a married mother is weak, only strong women do not need a man.

Edit: I guess I made four extreme feminist upset.

Answer 14

No, not most of them. Feminists who want to stay single and childless are a minority. Still, what's so bad about not wanting either of these things? Maybe we just have different priorities in life.

Answer 15

there is nothing wrong with me free country last time i checked

Answer 16

Some people just aren't into marriage and kids. . . how much that overlaps with those who'd use the term "feminist" to describe them, I have no clue.

Just because maybe you liked to dream about your future wedding as a little girl, who you were going to marry some day, and your future kids, it doesn't mean all of us did.  Some of us learned how to fake actually caring by the time we learned to write in cursive, because you can't *always* slip out of the conversation when it starts getting boring.  I'm not particularly opposed to marriage and suppose maybe I could deal with a kid (never my thing, even when I was one) under the right circumstances, but I'm too apathetic about it all to have that as any sort of real priority in my life.

There are plenty of stay-at-home moms who are feminists. . . it just happens to be what they like, and that's fine so long as it's their choice to do so.  However, you're probably going to find a lot more women not interested in being a wife and mom among the feminist population than among the general population, purely because the feminist population is more okay with going against what other people are telling them they should do just because they're female.

Answer 17

I think that being anti marriage makes perfect sense, and not just for feminists, and I am all for a woman making the choice not to have children.

At the end of the day it is about having the choice to do or not do these things - a hundred years ago if a woman did not marry and have children she was considered wierd and useless and unnatural - I think that there are some people who still have that belief.

Answer 18

I'm married. I'm a mother. And a feminist.

And most feminists I know ARE married (or want to be).

And ARE mothers (or want to be).

Answer 19

Different strokes for different folks. Not all women want to get married or have kids - it's not always elitism, it's just how it is. Saying something is "wrong" with them for that is like saying something is wrong with someone who chooses to become a lawyer rather than a doctor.

Answer 20

don't worry -- such femminists won't reproduce.

there was a new york times article the other day about couples that try really hard to be 50/50.

did you know that in couples where the mother works and the father doesn't -- the mother STILL does all the cleaning and child care?

yup.

femminissm should fight THAT.

the childless femminsts are breeding themselves out of existence. while muslim women make average of 5.1 babies each.

Answer 21

They want to be like men.  I find it annoying that women think they are 100% equal to men. Sadly we're not in some things and we never will be. We have our biological differences. If we really were equal then we would be hermaphrodites and we'd reproduce like snails for eg.

To be honest I like that these women exist coz that means more men for me, ha! I would also like it if most women turned g*y...again more men for me, hooray! Less competition. On the other hand, I'm against g*y men. When I see a hot g*y man I think "What a pity".

In my opinion a woman isn't complete if she doesn't have at least 1 child. It's important to leave half of your genes behind on this planet so they can continue living on Earth and evolve. It's the battle of life. Survival of the fittest. I hope I get to have as many kids as i can manage. I want my genes and my husband's to take over the world just like my first blue eyed ancestor did.

I also think that women who choose not to have kids are actually selfish. All the older motherless spinsters i know are indeed selfish. All they think about is themselves and that is why children are not for them.

Oh and I must add some more words to p**s off these feminists giving me bad marks, he he he. Go watch   the movie "Woman of the Year" with Catherine Hepburn. Then you might understand what a real woman is.

Answer 22

who says anyone has to be a mother.  Not everyone wants kids and there is nothing wrong with that.  I am a mom and I love it but I also want to be my own person and not just a mom.  Maybe some people are afraid they lose themselves completely if they have to take care of kids.  People should only have kids if they want to not because people think there suppose to.

Answer 23

I don't want children or get married, but i  don't see anything "wrong" with this, its my choice.

Ive never been maternal, and i don't believe in marriage, but that's just the way i am.

Answer 24

You've had so much personal experience with feminists so I can't believe you're asking this question when you know the answer already-I've met hundreds of feminists too at workshops and conferences that I've organized as well as at meetings and demonstrations and marches and the majority of feminists are married and have kids. . They bring their partners and kids with them to many of the events-I know you've seen them too. Some feminists marry but don't have kids-and they bring their partner and parents and siblings and neices and nephews to feminist events with them. And some feminists don't marry and don't have kids-just like anti-feminists and non-feminists. What an amazing coincidence. We all have so much in common-marrying and not marrying; having kids and not having kids. Isn't it great we have so many choices-all because of feminism.

Answer 25

You're implying that something must be wrong with someone if they choose not to marry or have children. It's their choice so deal with your issues. It is an extremely sexist point of view.

Answer 26

i've only seen & heard a few say that... and it's mainly becasue they know that that's not what they want in life or that they wouldn't be good at that. why is it such an issue for you???

Answer 27

Just because some women are not necessarily "ready" for marriage or children, or "want" marriage or children, does not mean that there is something wrong with them.   And, it's ignorant for you to classify all feminists in the same boat, since they all don't feel that way.  

We all have our own beliefs, and should have every right to choose to live the way we want.  Marriage and children is not for everybody.  Just because some people like apples, doesn't mean everybody else will.  It's personal taste.  

Some men feel the same way about marriage and children.  Would you assume there is something wrong with the men who share that belief as well?

Answer 28

Maybe because they don't like annoying kids that yell all the time or they don't want to be stuck at home dying of bordem because they have to look after the kids. And loads of people who arn't feminists never get married. Some people don't see the point in marrige, they just have a boyfriend or partner. not getting married does save money.

Answer 29

Where are your statistics on this?  A lot of feminists have children and want to have children.  Oh wait, you "heard a lot of feminists say this".  What concrete evidence.

Answer 30

Now don't go throwing them all in together, okay? A lot of the feminists from the 70's are now missing the companionship most wives and mothers experience, but some of them aren't. Generalizing isn't very nice.

edit: Dude, 50/50 to 50 isn't saying HE believes that, he's saying that's why a lot of feminists are single and have no kids. Sheesh, people!