What is wrong with me, do I have some type of disorder?

Question

I find myself constantly not trusting anyone about anything. I mean, if a female does something nice for me, or treats me nice, back in my mind, I'm thinking they want something. What could be some possible reasons why I do this?

I honestly believe most people in life have been "burned" in relationships, but why don't I trust people. I would rather spend time alone than be in a social gathering because I don't trust people for nothing. What is wrong me? I have probably ruined possible relationships with women because of this, but people are nice to me, and I sometimes ask them what do they want from me?

Answer 1

Sounds like you lack some self confidence.  Have you had some bad experiences with relationships? Maybe that's the problem. You are worried about this so I am sure you are a nice guy and some girl will be really lucky to find you when you do finally give in.. Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself.

Answer 2

Everyone is different in their own ways, it does not mean that something is wrong with you. A problem like this usually comes from childhood and it might be something you do not remember about but it set the mind into a different view of the world. Me for an example, I had to take anger management because people pissed me off, but there was a solution and i took it and maybe you should too, maybe set some meetings with a professional.

Life and all that is around is what you make it.

Answer 3

That's actually a form of schizophrenia. It's when you think the world is out to get you in a sense. People have different intensity's or levels of it you could say. My ex-boyfriends mom has it.

Many people think schizophrenia is just talking to yourself and acting loony and such but there are many ways people can certifiably be schizofrenics.

Answer 4

Why does everyone seem to want to have a label or a diagnosis ?  Having a label won't "cure" you.  Could we just say that you have trust issues ?  Sometime in your past during a phase when you were vulnerable someone betrayed your trust and so now you are fearful of being burned again. Often people think that "if I worry sufficiently, in advance of being burned, that I can prevent it from happening again" - but that really doesn't work except that it "kills off" relationships before you have to try to trust that person. You can decide to try to trust  people in relationships in little ways and then bigger ones as they "prove trustworthy".   But you have to realize that no one is perfect and you WILL be hurt again.... but is the chance worth the gain of a relationship or would you rather be safe but totally alone forever.