What is wrong with me? I want lots of input and answers.?

Question

I just turned 19. I am a senior in HS, i'm finishing up a few credits I missed when I was out sick junior year.

My problem is I like older guys, way older guys.

Like guys between 20-30, sometimes some of the guys I have crushes on are older than 30.

Its so weird!

I don't know why I do, I just do. Guys my age are so unappealing and it seems the older the guy the more physically and mentally appealing they get.

There is a line I do draw. There is such thing as too old.

I guess the reason this is bother me is that dating much older than your age is not a social norm and I don't really want to go through the social persecution I would get for doing so.

I think this comes from being more mature than others my age and looking for something different in a guy. I hate guys my age or younger and never ever would date someone my age or younger.

I want something long term, steady, exclusive, you know something like a mature adult relationship.

Ex: I have a crush on robert downey jr, the 20-something and 30-something year old security guards from my school, my 24 year old friend. Its not like it just crushes, if these guys felt the same way back I would go out with them.

Basically, I feel kind of lost and confused. No one else my age is like this. I also don't feel like I am going to find a relationship for quite awhile because of this.

Help?

Answer 1

Well , I don't think nothing is wrong with you , because sometimes I see older men , and think they are cute , it's just you prefer mature men . My advice would be your cut off age is 26 , because 19 and 26 has a pretty good gap between those two numbers .  

Answer 2

there is nothing wrong with you. you are more mature than the boys your age. so just wait to date. hang out with guys ur age, after a while you may find they are less unappealling than meets the eye

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with liking older guys but remember girls mature much faster than guys! When you're older the younger guys will probably start appealing to you more because they will be more mature! Instead of trying to rush into a relationship right now, take a break! Don't focus your attention on guys and instead focus on your classes, sports, clubs, friends, and hobbies!

good luck!

Answer 4

It's normal. Girls tend to be more mature than guys. So just wait until your older and don't do anything you will regret because these guys are way older than you

Answer 5

I don't wish to stereotype, but it is, generally speaking, fact that women mature faster than men. It's pretty common for girls your age to like older men, so I'm surprised that you're the only girl you know who feels this way. Perhaps others do but daren't tell others? I would be very surprised if you received social persecution for dating an older guy, but then maybe the social norm's are different where you live I don't know. Where I live, it is and was generally seen as 'cool' for a girl 18-20 to be dating a guy in his mid to late 20's. I'm 20 now and I know I could never date a guy my own age again. A lot of that is to do with the fact that I am a mum now which has probably pushed me a bit further beyond my years anyway, but even if I wasn't I still think I'd feel the same way. I have a lot of male friends my age who I like a lot but I could never date one of them as their issues and attitudes haven't progressed much past what mine were when I was about 16. So you're not the only one, and loads of other girls are the same believe me. But men do catch up with women in the maturity stakes eventually, and I imagine by the time you're in your mid 20's you'll probably be happy to date guys your own age. But up until then, then I wouldn't sacrifice having a relationship for the worry of what people will think. You might get a few raised eyebrows if you date someone 30+, especially while you're still a teenager (though there really is no difference between being 19 and 20, it's just that 'teen stigma' that makes people think the guy must be a paedo)... but I really don't see any harm in you dating someone in anything up to their late 20's, if it's someone you truly want to be with and care about and who will treat you as an equal. Are you planning on going to university after school? If so, you'll make friends with an entirely different group of people from all over the country and all walks of life and I bet this social stigma you're experiencing now won't be the case there. And even if you're not going to university and just intend to get a job - again, you'll meet new people all ages and from all backgrounds and I can't see these social limits being the case then. If you don't want people to think you're 'weird' then perhaps just wait until you've finished school. But I wouldn't let small minded people have too great an effect on your life. Do what you want - if you end up in a loving relationship then will a few immature people's opinions really matter to you anyway? Good luck :-)

Answer 6

Sounds like your ad wasn't that involved in your life.

You may be looking for a father figure or the guys in your age range are all losers.Try church.You'll meet a better class of guys there.The United Pentecostal churches are good.

Answer 7

That's because you like Mature and non-ignorant men. Wait a little bit longer for people your age to get more mature.