What is wrong with my mom

Question

ok my mom does this:

-lays on the couch constantly

-NEVER showers or brushes her hair

-goes to Sams club JUST to eat the samples

-takes as much as free stuff that she can get

-got fired from her job

-yells at my dad for no reason and yells " DADDYS GOING TO JAIL!"

-hits me with stuff

-throws things ( she threw my DS across the room once)

-she says that she hides from my dad but is really just laying laying in the middle of the house

-makes this S****y food that no one eats (mush)

-she wears these filthy hats (I MEAN FILTHY)

-SHES JUST PLAIN LAZY

what is the problem here, bucko =(

Answer 1

You don't sound too broken up about it...She's either crazy or severely depressed.

Answer 2

Maybe there is a reason is she depressed from losing her job?

Answer 3

You and your dad need to arrange for her to see a doctor, she needs anti depressants or other medication , and counselling or therapy.

Try to be understanding and support her. Look up advice for people with depression or other mental illness on the net. Good luck.

Answer 4

i think the laziness, lying on the couch, never showering and are all signs of depression.

does she cry very much?  

Answer 5

uhhmm she is highly intoxicated or just needs some type for herself

get her sum THERAPY! before things get worse

Answer 6

To me, it sounds like depression, lack of motivation/purpose for her life, immaturity, and anger.  You're right that she has a problem, but I'm at a loss as to how to suggest it be solved.  

All I can say is that you are on the right track to realize that she has a problem and that her behavior is not somehow your fault or your misconception.  My dad had problems holding down a job because of a felony record and was often mean verbally to people around him.  He still loved us and we loved him, but we recognized that he acted (acts) immaturely a lot of the time.  I don't excuse his behavior - I tell him when he does something offensive, but I don't withdraw from the relationship, either.  Keeping the relationship in that tension is difficult, but I personally do it because I see that we are all broken people in need of love and grace from God and each other.  My dad's parents were physically abusive and he lived on the streets when he was young and he did a lot of drugs.  I think these things have handicapped him relationally and I have different expectations of him, socially, as a result.  

One difference between my story and yours is that I am an adult now and I was never physically abused by my dad (except for one or two overly harsh spankings with a belt).  If you mom is habitually throwing stuff at you or hitting you with things, you don't have to live with her, because that is physical abuse.  Talk to your dad or another family member and see if you can live with an aunt or something.  You could also involve the police or social services, but I've heard that the foster care system is broken, so I wouldn't want to get into that if I were you.