What is wrong with parents theses days and teaching kids table manners. it never fails, anytime i have a meal?

Question

away from home, and there are children present, i need up excusing myself from the table. Kids and adults too for that matter, while eating, smack their lips, chew with mouth open, talk with mouth full. suck their teeth and wipe their mouths on their shirt sleeves. Last summer, i took my friends and their 3 boys to the river to camp. I have a camper out there. well late in afternoon, it started to rain so we all ran to the camper. I keep a tv and vcr inside so the kids popped in a movie. so all six of us are sitting shoulder to shoulder in front of the tv and the parents give the kids a bag of chips and a candy bar. OMFG, thought i was gonna lose my freakin mind. the parents werent eating loudly but the kids were. i kept looking at the parents, thinking to myself, cant you heard that? they are smacking so loud i couldnt hear the tv set. food was falling out of their mouths half chewed, and theyd pick it up off the carpet and put it back in their mouths. i ended up going outside.

Answer 1

That just means you really need to learn that that's what kids do.

I know how you feel, but its other people's problems. You can't change other peoples lives because of something that annoys you.

:)

Learn to live, darlin.

Answer 2

With all due respect...inviting adults with kids to go camping was your first mistake; your second was expecting them to have manners inside the camper while watching TV and eating. Kids today have no manners, that's just a fact. Many adults have none either, so your best option is to avoid, whenever possible, eating with kids and ith adults you don't know well. It is disgraceful but it is a sign of the times, and no one cares about manners any more parents have their hands full keeping kids from getting into serious trouble and committing crimes to worry about manners.

Answer 3

I agree with cats.....manners seem to be a thing of the past.  We work on them in our family and my children (to be fair they are teens-18 &14, not little ones) are frequently complemented on their good manners.  It always surprises me a little, because I certainly view them as typical kids, so I guess many others must be much worse.  It is an effort to teach your kids and many parents don't bother.  Personally, I think good parenting in general is in decline.  It's pretty sad, actually.

Answer 4

Some parents see the excuse that "at least they are eating something", a cop out I know but taking on responsibility for something is no longer in our culture. Raising children seems to have become a novelty - look what I've got so to speak. They have lost the understanding that they are supposed to be raising the future generation, what they put into these little life forms are what is going to come out at the other end.

Answer 5

a lot of parents have the excuse that their kids are just kids, and its too much of a shame, in my opinion, that parents are so so scared these days of disciplining their own children. They want to be friends with their kids and its not on.

I have an eight year old daughter who for stupid 'equality' reasons these days lives with her dad. Every single time I have her I have to teach her how to use a knife and fork, too many times she just eats take out for dinner and lunch so she is not getting the proper practice, this isnt her fault but its me who seems to be the bad parent to teach her table-which are so important, and I may get flogged for saying this but too many parents just are too lax and take the easy way out. I have seen it and so have many many people.

Sure parents these days dont want the same upbringing that they themselves have gone through, and try to make things easier for their kids-at the detriment to them. Its not good for parents to turn a blind eye and not have an active role in the everyday upbringing of their children.

You seem to have been good friends with these parents u went camping with, if it was your site, you would have had every right to say something to the kids, maybe even a joke like: 'be careful or you will get flys chasing that food down your throat when you chew with your mouth open!'. these parent friends of yours may not have wanted to cause a scene in a public place with you there and may have thought it easier to not say anything at the time about the manners, but it is in these cases where manners are more important than ever.

I do think parenting needs to be changed dramatically so we can raise a generation of responsible young adults and not the brats we too often see these days. I dont know if you have kids or not, I'm expressing my opinion, and being a parent myself I know its about letting go sometimes and a lot of compromise, but whether a parent or not it is expected for kids to behave and for parents to have control in these situations.

Answer 6

I just went to the movies today and sat next to a kid (maybe around 11-12) who was chomping away on her popcorn with her mouth wide open.  It was so distracting and disgusting.  She made eye contact with me and started to calm down on the chewing after she caught me watching her.  I told my hubby about it when I got home and he said "that doesn't bother some people" (like him).  I have always been conscientious of my table manners wherever I am.  It's so distracting and people need to make more of a concerted effort to have more manners.  Just my opinion.

Answer 7

The reason childrens table manners are so bad is a/

children and parents don't eat at the table anymore they eat

in front of computers and tv sets and so they don't bother to correct the children and b/ everyone eats at fast food restaurants so they are all taught to eat with their hands. I have seen teenagers and young adults using a fork and knife like they were stabbing someone. It is no wonder that schools that teach manners are springing up all over the place. These children are going into the professional workforce with major handicaps because they have such poor manners not only at the table but everywhere else as well.  I was reading an article about large corporations having to send their young executives to manners  school as

their behavior at business meetings and dinners was so appalling that they felt it reflected badly on the company.

Answer 8

change your friends or your attitude towards kids-one will work for you

Answer 9

I was taught to say please and thank you.  those days seem to be long gone.  I'm with you, dear.  usually the parents of these kids are no better than the kids.