What is wrong with these men that don't take care of their children?

Question

What is wrong with these men that don't take care of their children?

Answer 1

My husband is an EXCELLENT father to his 2 kids (from his previous marriage).  He pays for everything (thousands in daycare and support), does all the doctors and dentist's appointments, is ontop of all their school work, knows the in's and out's of their lives and they really love him.  Ontop of all this he does have them half of the time, so figure out how much of our incomes goes towards supporting the kids in our house and in his ex wife's house.  His ex-wife is a dead beat mother and she knows it.  Don't be so narrow minded.  Life is never that simple.

Answer 2

I don't know why my daughters dad decided when she was 5 he could leave town never call no address no b day cards no child support probably his crack habit became more important. I do know i can't count on him so i just don't stress about it. i'M HER MOTHER WE have been fine the last 6 years without him.  

Answer 3

For them it is not about taking care of their children, it is making a point to their ex's "You are not the boss of me and I will do what ever I want with my money"

Answer 4

they are selfish! i have one like that, and insteadof seeing his kids and buying them things they need he would rather be drinking beer with his "friends"

look at mine and tell me what you think plz!

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Answer 5

they don't care!! in my case if he couldn't have me he didn't want the kid! and he does whatever he can to avoid having to be financially responsible for him!  

Answer 6

well men who think they are big enough to do it then they should be big enough to suffer the consequence. and children are the best thing that has ever happened to anyone.

Answer 7

I wish I knew.  My husband claims that he wants children.  He has a wonderful little boy, but now he really wants a girl and always wanted to spoil a princess.  I don't know why he even wants kids when he doesn't spend time with the beautiful boy he has.  Keep in mind he wanted one of each.  I am the only one taking him out to play, go to the park, and do stuff with him.  I am trying to teach him to ride his bike and play baseball and catch with him.  I only wish my husband would do that so I can do other things in my leisure instead of vice versa.  Oh, and I am a stay at home mom who has been doing 99% of the upbringing of our son.  So I am curious to find out why as well.

Answer 8

Most men who don't take care of their children were raised in homes with no fathers.   Women learn to be good mothers by learning from their own mothers.  So, if a child grows up in a home with no father, then they don't have that role model.   They don't know what it means to be a good father.

Also, a lot of it has to do with race and socio-economic background.  After all, why do most middle class white men have an easier time filling the role of father, then  lower class minority men.  It's because there is a emphasize on the importance of the family unit, establishing a strong household and being a good role model in that social circle.

Again, in the minority circle, that's something that has been forgotten or not held to a higher standard.  Women are the sole caregivers for the children, not men.   In addition, the rates of marriage in those communities tend to be lower.  There isn't an importance of establishing a household that includes marriage, childbearing and two parents. Even in cases of divorce, this is still somewhat upheld in many middle class men.  

I'm not trying to be racist, but it's a fact.  There are less positive male role models within some race and social classes.   Men aren't take that it's important to be a role model and support their children.  It's just not there.

A lot has to do with how these men were raised.  They were either raised in homes with no fathers, fathers who didn't care, fathers with drug issues or within a household that didn't value marriage, parenthood or a structured family unit.

Answer 9

Because they don't realize that anyone can be a dad, but it takes a real man to be a FATHER...  

Answer 10

I just have to comment on YOU WISH's answer. gee by your answer I guess i'll be screwed when me and my husband have kids since his dad abandoned him and he's black huh? way to generalize. GOOD men take care of their kids no matter what their race or background.  

Answer 11

Some men don't or can't accept the fact that their a Dad here! Some men are still a child them self's here and can't take care of them self's here!Some men are just a dead beat Dad here!

Answer 12

They'd rather keep the money. That simple.  

Answer 13

i knwo what you mean..ive been split from my childrens father for a year and a half now and currently going trhough divorce proceedings. And he said he was going to put moeny into an account so i can get them thigns like school clothes etc. he hasnt done any such thing. He now has another girlfriend who started seeing soon after we split and she is pregnant with hs child. It makes me mad to think that he isnt supporting his own children yet is willing to support another. SELFISHNESS!!

Answer 14

They are Brain Damaged, Selfish, Self Centered and simply Dumb!! I have my fiance who had a baby with someone else and eventhough he works full time and is going to school as well 2 days a week, he still pays child support and spends time with his son.  

Answer 15

maby their girlfriend/xwife really screwed them over and is using the kid to keep s******g them over.  

Maby the man has a problem paying he because he knows his money is being used to support moms new boyfriend and not help the kids!

Answer 16

If they don't accept responsibility, and if they don't love their children enough to step up...

Are they in fact really men?  Or just boys?

Answer 17

They just DON'T GIVE A S*********T...very simple...

Answer 18

My ex is a bit extreme.  He refuses to work at all.  He is chronically homeless.  He mooches off others as much as possible.  He mooched off me for a long time.  He is 28 years old w/ no college degree, $7000 in studen loans that are in default, had a $16000 financed car reposessed for non-payment, and has a total of about 3 years work experience at a telemarketer/collector.  He stayed at one job for 1.5 years, the other approx. 1.5 years of experience are from 1 mo here, 3 mo there jobs.

He has never consistently seen his son.  In 8 years there have been many where he has not talked to his son in over a year.

I finally filed for child support.  Every time I filed before he threatened to kill me and I believed him.

Answer 19

I have no idea.  We got married within six months of meeting and dating because I got pregnant.  What is wrong with women who aren't picky with who they sleep with?

Answer 20

They are children themselves. From my experience the only way for them to change is with a REAL threat to leave. Then see if they change. If not, go and live your life you'll be better off without him.