What is wrong with this world?

Question

Why is it that you have a family and women are the ones that have to give up all there dreams and stay home. I think its stupid that men thing they can lay there and acouple of minutes and not have to raise a child... why is it that use women are wrong if we want to get jobs and live out our dreams why are we wrong if we dont stay home and take care of the kids? if we dont stay home were bad mothers for not?

what do you think about womens roles in society?

Answer 1

im a stay at home mommy, its the hardest work ever

Answer 2

Well, there are a couple of reasons that it makes more sense for women to stay home than men.  

1)  We are more maternal, and tend to enjoy staying home with the kids more.

2) If you nurse your child, mom staying home certainly facilitates that.

3) Like it or not, men still make more than women for the same jobs in this country.

I am a SAHM and I don't think I am giving up all my dreams to do it - in fact I was giving up all my dreams to stay in my $60k a year job just because I had gotten used to making that kind of money.  Now, my husband and I are talking about buying a horse farm, which is my dream, and it will allow me to stay home all day with my daughter and home school her - another dream of mine.  

I certainly don't look down on people who go to work - I do sort of have an issue with people who say that they have to work to "get away from their kids" - it just seems weird to me that people would have kids just to escape them.

Answer 3

I think you are stuck in the 50's.  More men are staying home with the children now, moms/wives are still having a careers and lives while also having families.  If you feel that women get cheated out after having children, then dont have any.  

Answer 4

Men have to go out and work, because women are not smart enough to do it.

Answer 5

In my house - we both have to work to pay the bills!  

Answer 6

Well, two things, I guess.

First, you seem, in one sense, to be complaining about basic biology.  Nobody can change the fact that the male is biologically only required to inject sperm, and the female is biologically required to go through none months of gestation and then the pain of delivery, and then (again, biologically) a number of months, and even years, feeding the child from her own body.  Also, in terms of the survival of the species, the male is required (in order to increase the chances that his offspring, and thus genes or bloodline survive to maturity) to support that female, so that she may care for the child.

We are certainly not that tied to some of those basic biological imperatives any more.  Most especially, now, since the female can bring home the meat as easily as the male can, that role of support and care need not be related to gender.  The male can certainly stay home and keep house and care for the children while the female is out earning the money.  Whether men are often entirely suited to the task or not is debatable, but I spent several years caring for my kids when they were little, and keeping house, and I enjoyed it a great deal.

Ultimately, the rule is the same for both genders.  If you want to travel the world, live out your dreams, take the risks, go for it.  Don't have kids.  Once you have kids, both the parents really need to focus rather completely on the task at hand, which is raising those kids and ensuring they have the tools, skills and education they'll need to have a chance to reach for their dreams.  

I think that women's roles in our society have undergone a profound, even revolutionary change since 1941, and that change has accelerated massively, just since the introduction of birth control pills.  I applaud the change, and like you, I suspect, I share a certain frustration with the fact that things aren't changing fast enough.  But keep two things in mind.  Human being have been on this planet a long time, and we are the product of hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of generations of adaptation.  In sixty or seventy years time, you really can't expect those hundreds of generations to be dispelled.  Secondly, there are people who feel that the change in women's roles has been entirely bad, because it's robbed our culture of a stable family life.  I disagree, and would simply suggest that we have yet adapted our traditions to provide for a stable family life by default.  If we want a stable family life now, we must wrangle with the various expectations we have for ourselves, and that others have for us.

Chin up.  Do what you want to do with your life, but keep in mind what you must be willing to sacrifice to get what you want.

Answer 7

I KNOW!  I agree with you.  I think it's wonderful that a woman can live her dream, climb the corporate ladder, be successful and raise a family.  Far harder work than any SAHM.  

I can't stand women who spend thousands of dollars on college and get a degree and they get married and pregnant and poo-poo on all that money and the degree to stay home for the next 18+ years.  

We get criticized for working because the SAHM are still in the 1950's when all the mothers stayed home and cooked home cooked meals and sewed everyone's clothes, while the husband worked all day.  This was considered back then the thing to do, the right thing to do, whatever.

This is 2008 and times have changed, so stop criticizing us.

Answer 8

Here in my house I am the main breadwinner and I make much more then my significant other, but we both have to work hard in order to pay the bills.

Answer 9

I am a stay at home mom and I don't think I am giving up my dreams. In all reality my dream is to stay at home with my kids while they are little. I don't think it is wrong to go to work either though. As for me I am just holding off on some of my dreams until my kids are in school. Not many people really think working moms are bad moms. That is just what you find on these kind of boards.

Of course it works both ways, there are working moms who criticize stay at home moms.

Answer 10

If you  have children it's much better to spend a lot of time with them.

If not then just live your life however you want