What is your answer for an alternative for adoption?

Question

For those of you that think there should be no adoption what should happen to these children that do not have homes? In you answers please remember that alot of these children can not be with their bio familys for one reason or another. We all have to except the fact that there is and always will be unwanted children and children that have to be rescued from bad and abusive homes. Please know that I am very aware that the system needs many changes so that it is good for all the parties involved.

Answer 1

I think adoption is great and plan on adopting 2 when my kids are older or foster 2 kids from the same family.

But there are so many kids out there with out a family living in foster care and some just being passed around from foster to foster.

I think it would be great if they had a big house for kids. So they don't get passed around all the time. Kids who are going threw this needs a stable life. And if they had rooms  per family or if single kid 2-3 per room. Where they go to school same school every day. No bouncing them around. They sit down in small group as a family per room. So there some routine in there life. Also have more people around to help with school.

These kids life are hard all ready and need every chance they can get to better there life with an education so history don't repeat themselves.

Foster care is great if its the right family doing it for the right reason. But some foster  family should not be allowed to foster and only making things worse.

breaks my heart. So each big city should have a large foster home. where they play have fun, learn and have routine.

Until they find a good home to live and be adopted. They system needs to step it up and make alot of changes. The kids born behind us is our future. When I am old I want to know the future is going to be amazing b/c the kids behind us had a great life and a chance.

Answer 2

with the exception of abuse, neglect and orphaned children:

-better s*x education that doesn't preach abstinence and adoption.

-access to contraception without all the moral mumble-jumble associated with it.

-access to emergency contraception.

-legal guardianship which doesn't sever parental rights.

-more resources to help young women parents so they are not forced to make the decision to relinquish if they really wish to parent.

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Answer 3

I think adoption is a GOOD thing.  I think it is the secrecy and keeping adult adoptees from getting their information that is wrong.

What I also think is wrong is the pressure put on caucasian women to give up their children. That is MORALLY WRONG so why are different christian denominations actually pushing it?  Why is it easier to return a lawn mower than to get your child back when you change your mind 1 month after signing the papers . This is WRONG!  Why are fathers STILL being kept out of the equation?  Again, WRONG!

Answer 4

I can't answer this question because I don't think there should be 'No Adoption' lol!

I think I have come across maybe two people in this section who think there should be 'no adoption'

I'm glad you are aware that the system needs many changes and look forward seeing what we can all do to achieve those changes

Answer 5

I am definitely pro adoption but as an alternative...legal guardianship can work too. The bio parents are sometimes unable or unwilling to care for the child but still want to be somewhat a part of their lives. The child has stability and a large extended family. Our 8 year old understands that some people can't be good moms and dads. Just like not everyone knows how to fly a plane or fix a toilet. Some ppl just can't be full time parents.  It doesn't make them bad people, just not parents.

Answer 6

I have never heard no one saying no to adoption. Only when is related to parents giving up their kids for adoption. Parents should keep their kids no matter what; the reason is that it is just natural for kids to want to be raised by their parents, it must be horrible for anyone to learn down the road that your parents gave you up, even if it was well intended. Life is about facing obstacles, and this country has so much public assistance and programs, that there should not be any excuse other than the parent not wanting to face this obstacles and her/his responsibility. Who said that life should be perfect and comfortable? if it is, then let's make it that way for our own children who come before our own selfish needs.

Answer 7

We should be focusing less on fulfilling the desires of want-to-be parents and more on the needs of children.

Nobody here has EVER said that a child is better off in an abusive situation, being neglected by his/her bio parents, etc.  NOBODY has said that.

But adoption as it stands today is about "building a family" when it SHOULD be about "finding a home" for kids who need it.  

And that home SHOULD be with another family member, if at all possible, before we go handing them off to strangers to raise.  Would you want to go live with strangers when you were a kid, or would you rather go live with a relative, if you needed to go to another home?

How about your own kids? What if you and your spouse/partner were to get killed or injured to a point you couldn't take care of your own?  I highly doubt ANYONE here has provisions for their own children to be adopted out to strangers if something should happen; you would rather see your kids go to a family member, or close friend, right?

So why is it any different for any other kid?  

We need to start looking at adoption in a way that keeps the adoptee's rights intact and doesn't take more from them than it has to (family, name, birth certificate, heritage, etc.)

Answer 8

I'm all for adoption.  I love it, and plan on adopting one day.

Answer 9

Believe it or not there was a time before institutionalized adoption.  

In my own natural family, my great aunt had a child out of wedlock, and *gasp* the family kept the baby!  

The actor Jack Nicholson is a child who grew up with his maternal grandmother raising him along with his mother.

I believe in families staying together whenever possible, instead of 'outsourcing' their children to be raised by strangers.