What is your definition of "strict parents?"?

Question

How strict is too strict?

Answer 1

If you make your kids feel as if they can't approach you....

If you can't have a nice conversation with your kids without yelling at them, or lecturing them.....

Basically, if you can feel yourself getting out of control but can't seem to stop.....

I think you know.

Answer 2

Strict parents are parents who won't budge about anything and who think that they can control you. To the person above me, how old are your kids; I can't believe you would force your 17 year old to be in her room by 9... that's a little ridiculous. Too strict would be the person above me that's a good example right there.

Answer 3

I'm a self proclaimed mean mommy. I won't allow my daughter to play with Bratz dolls. She will be in when the street lights come on. She will be in her bedroom no later than 9 pm no matter what her age(she doesn't have to sleep, she could do homework or read, but she's not getting a tv in her room until she's 14), unless she's working or going out on a chaperoned group date(16 or older). I will allow her to earn privledges and special treats or gifts. There will be no cell phone until she has saved up enough money to cover the entire 2 years worth of service. I will happily cover the cost of a collect call should she need me. There will be no boys in her room with the door closed, ever.

Those are my main sticking points. Everything else is pretty flexible. I know she will probably be made fun of by kids whose parents don't care what they do, but when she's fully grown, I know she'll thank me for the rules that allowed her to grow and find out who she is on the inside. I was raised like this and I have no major issues(lol), I didn't have a teenage pregnancy, I worked a full/part time job ever since I was 14. I'm glad my parents were strict, I learned how to follow rules, and that became laws as I got older, and I've always had respect for my elders.

Good luck!  

Answer 4

Parents that set rules and wont budge and they are more complex then other parents ,good grades ,they make sure who you are going out with and dont like you to be out late and firm disapline

Answer 5

Personally, i think parent should guide children- not lecture them otherwise the child can disobey or become really detached from the parent if they are too overbearing.  Obviously when they are younger, they need some sort of dicipline to determine what is right or wrong eg. not to run out on the street, not to hurt other people.  

I also bekieve in allowing a child to make appropriate decisions for them selves to develop independence eg. allowing them to choose from outfits that are suitable for the weather and the occaision.

Anything over the top or that restricts a child from being themself- in an appropriate manner, while still having respect for their parents and others i would class as strict.  

Answer 6

I didn't go on my first date until my boyfriend and I moved in together...is that too strict? =P

Answer 7

Interesting question.  

Strict usually means the parent loves their child so much they set boundaries for them....usually the child does not understand why this is beneficial until they are in their twenties.

Un-strict parents are ones that let their children do whatever they want so that they don't have to 'look' mean or unfair - but it isn't uncommon that these parents are afraid to set boundaries or they don't care what the outcome is.  

example:

- is it strict for a parent to not let their 3 year old run out in the street?

- is it strict to forbid a 6 year old to steal candy from a store?

- is it strict to not let your 10 year old scream and hit their mother?

when a child is not responsible for their actions, who is?

Answer 8

mean parents