What is your opinion of the whole 'Thai Bride' market?

Question

I watched a documentary with Louis Theroux last night about gentlemen that go over to Thailand in order to find a bride. Before I saw this documentary I thought this sounded sordid and nasty but now I have changed my mind.

The agencies that organise this take into account BOTH parties and each are free to decided whether they want to get together or not (I used to think they were sold or something - I'm only 18 and not very wise on these matters).

At the end of the program I thought it was quite nice really. Gentlemen that are very lonely have the opportunity of finding love and vice versa. The ladies that were looking for husbands were very honest about why they wanted a western man and not a Thai men (inc. money i.e. wanting to come to the UK and be looked after etc.). It was all very honest and proper.

What do you think about this. Am I naive and missing something here?

Answer 1

Hi pooh bear, mmmm well i guess it depends on peoples morals, i mean if there 2 consenting adults fair enough their descion all legal and more than likly a great money maker for the company involved.

But personally i could never spend my life with a man for money i would miss love too much, also id hate to think how the man would feel looking him self in the mirror at night knowing that his wife is with him for money and freedom not true love, maybe my opiion is a little childish or romantic luckily iv never had any experiance to make me not beleive in finding some one i love.

i mean there is every possibilite that the 2 people make grow to love each other but as i said its not my thing.

Pooh bear you seen to be interested in a lot of very different things!! hehe

Answer 2

We were ripped off. We went over there lookin for a Thai bride to help out around the farm and that, but we ended up with a ladyboy......

They wouldn't give us our money back so we decided to make do. He milks the cows at dawn for us while we're still in bed so he's handy enough........

Answer 3

Agree with spanky for the most part.  For myself I would never had married a women more then 10 years younger then me or one that has kids.

Answer 4

There is no need to use an agency. They will usually rip you off. Come to Thailand several times. Learn the language a little bit. Travel around but stay clear of tourist zones, certainly the bar scene. There are thousands of good and attracive women in Thailand who are too old for a Thai husband (+25).  

Answer 5

This can be a good experience for both parties, and it can be very bad. Like most things in life, it depends on the honesty and intent of the parties involved.

I am sure some men are looking for something other than a wife, and I am sure some of the women are looking for a visa, not a husband.

As with anything you do you have to be careful and not make sudden or rash decisions without thorough thought.

Answer 6

Well, I live here and see many of these matches - where thai men might have little interest and respect for a thai woman who has a kid and is divorced, an older foreign man doesn't feel the same way - - as well as representing a way to get ahead in the world - - you are young, older love is different, it is probably less romantic and more practical - Thai ladies, especially ones with a kid or two, truly feel old at abt 27 or so - and are responsible to support their child and help out their mother and father as they age - this is sad and within their culture only - hard for us to believe but true - - many of the foreign men have had bad marriages in the west and are thrilled to have someone less confrontatonal though a totally strong and independent minded female - Thai ladies, for the most part, are not going to take alot of c**p - - and as to the money element - well, are there some mothers in the West who want their daughters to marry doctors? Is that because doctors have lots of time off to spend w/kids and family? or doctors are good looking? or they are hoping fora good provider - big issue here - - but these are just some thoughts..

Answer 7

It can be real good, and it can be very bad. My best friend has been married to a Thai girl for a few years now, and things are going well for them.

However, I know of several of these relationships that did not turn out that well. I know of one in particular where a 60+ man lost his life savings after marrying ( and divorcing) a thai girl that he met on one of these websites.

Answer 8

Spanky hits it out of the park.

Everybody in the end is just looking to be loved and needed even us old grouchy coots.