What is your opinion on Pre-nups?

Question

Dont you think its a little sad to be working out whats going to happen when you break up with your partner just before your wedding? I can understand it if one side of the partnership is fully set up and has wealth before they met their partner, but otherwise, whats the point? Surely mature adults can work out to split things 50-50 when both people in the relationship have worked to build that wealth?

Answer 1

Things are not always *earned* by the 50-50 standards, so sometimes, it's a good idea.

Kind of...a way of saying "hey, I'm not in this for your money"

:)

Answer 2

Prenup! Prenup! Prenup! Pleeeeeeeze!

Answer 3

There are all different kinds of pre-nup agreements. You write your own. The one that seems the most fair to me is: Everything you had before the marriage and any money that you had before the marriage and invested into something after the marriage continue to be your own personal assets when you file for a divorce. Any money that is earned during the marriage and assets bought with that money should be split 50/50 when you file for a divorce.

I don't think anyone has the right to half of everything you had before you married them. But you do have the right to half of everything you had together when you were married.

Answer 4

And sadly, divorces are quite messy and very bitter. It is best to have a prenup to prevent some serious damage if the relationship should fail.

Answer 5

In this day and age, they're a necessity.

Unfortunate, but true. you have to protect yourself  

Answer 6

it is sad to think of it that way, but the truth behind the sadness is that not all marriages work out, and its just a way to protect what you have worked for and not have to worry about someone else taking it from you just cause you broke up.

in your example, ok so partner 1 is wealthy, and partner 2 is average. and over time partner 1 becomes superwealthy by working hard, having to sacrifice time with partner 2 in order to gain that wealth. then partner 2 becomes distant because partner 1 is out most the time condtucing business, and wants a divorce.  so, is it right for parter 2 to reap the benifit of parnter 1's hard work?

I don't think so, that is just a greedy person trying to take what someone else worked hard for.

I think that pre-nups should be law. you keep what you earn, and if you are a housewife married to a wealthy person, then the wealthy person should take care of you, while you are together. But they shouldn't be obligated to take care of you after you split up, sure maybe for a few months so you can get your life straight, then move on. but not forever.  

People need to be independent, that is the only way to truly have a sense of security, otherwise you will always be worrying about wether or not you can take care of yourself.

What you should do, (while your with the wealthy person) is get yourself set up, go to school, get a good job, use thier connections, to get ahead in life yourself, and if in the future you both split ways, well...guess what, you are ahead because you worked to get ahead, and didn't have to take anything from them.

Answer 7

They are only necessary when there is an inheritance involved.  anything that is bought during the marriage, regardless of who spends their money on it, should be an asset of the marriage, unless it would be a large sum put down on a home or something.  In that case an agreement that the person with the large sum of money (if he had the money prior to the marriage) should be able to recover that portion of the estate, plus his share.

Answer 8

break ups aren't that easy. It would be nice to think that people could be mature enough to divide things equally, but that's not always the case. You think you would be fair in a break up. But just imagine if your partner did something very evil to you. Most people would want to bring him or her to the cleaners. When theres strong emotions attached to the divorce, all common sense goes out the window. I used to think that pre nups weren't a good idea, but I've been married for 25 years and if something happened to my husband and I and I got remarried, I would want to protect whats mine. And hopefully he would do the same. So I think it depends on the situation I guess.

Answer 9

True what you say but pre-nups are easier to deal with IF theres a possibility of a divorce. no fighting over whats who's and all that junk.  

Answer 10

Yes it is sad.. My wife and I didn't sign a prenup. I didn't want to be thinking like the right before our wedding. If we do split up, but is never going to happen, she can take everything I own. She is the mother of my kids and deserves anything and everything.

Answer 11

To me a pre nup is like asking for a divorce. It seems like a lack of trust too. If you really love someone I don't think pre nups should even be thought of. I'm not a materialistic girl anyways.

wow that was just my opionion. Thats just the way I see it. I've been married to my husband for almost 7 years and all I care about is him and the marriage. I could lose everything as long as it wasn't him and my kids and be happy. Even if something did happen, I wouldn't care about everything else. I would want to keep things simple and be mature for the kids.

Answer 12

Unless one prospective spouse is filthy rich and the other skint, prenups are completely unnecessary. Having an eye on divorce as you're planning your wedding doesn't show foresight; it simply shows that you're not willing to put in the effort to make the marriage work when the going gets tough. If you're so worried about your assets in the eventuality of divorce, keep all accounts separate. Much easier and less insulting.

Answer 13

Sadly love is the exact opposite of hate. And there is alot of hate going around during a divorce. If one of the partners is wealthy and wishes to protect her/his assets then a pre-nup should exist. If the other partner is offended then that partner should not sign the pre-nup or should request a modification in the pre-nup that would make the partner feel more secure.

Marriage is not forever and life isn't fair. But it is nice to know security is on your side when romance leaves it.

Answer 14

Better to have one and don't need it, than to need it and don't have one. It's like a life or medical insurance, you're not planning to die or get sick, but it happens, and it's better to be prepared. When a divorce happens it's not because you're happy with each other, it's exactly the opposite, therefore chances are there might be some bitterness and some bad decisions from both sides, and there's nothing more damaging to ones life and your children's life than a bad divorce. A pre-nup will help you your children and your spouse to deal with that traumatic part of your life more easily, all the big important decisions will be made in a time were emotions are easy to control, therefore bringing less pain to a already painful process. That said, keep in mind, it's like an insurance, it's better if you don't have to use it, but it's safer to have it.

Answer 15

it is the understanding. forget the past and try to lead a better life as one.

Answer 16

well from my experience.i was the one who worked hard to but a house get new car etc.she goes out and commits crimes,cheats.so we got divorced and the courts award her the house and everything i owned pretty much.so how fair is that?we even discussed things and she said we would sell the house and split it 50-50.well she lied.so i say a prenup is important.and if i ever get married again,there will be one.