What is your opinion on babies born out of wedlock?

Question

I was reading the responses to a question about 'what does love child' mean, and I was amused to find some of the responses. I've been engaged since last summer and we're having a baby next month. I'm a college grad and he has a good job, I haven't had to work in a year. With the divorce rate these days, I don't find much difference between having a baby out of wedlock and having a baby then getting divorced. I don't know, maybe that's my own jaded opinion. But I've found some people are really uncomfortable talking about my pregnancy since we're not married and they tend to skirt the issue. It doesn't bother me, why does it bother other people?

Answer 1

As long as the child is raised properly and loved, who cares if the parents are together or not?

Answer 2

These people with problems are becoming archaic. Don't worry about it.

Answer 3

i think it is fine. my half sister was born before my dad and step mom got married, and the wedding took place while my step mom was in the second trimester with my half brother.  so i think it is fine, and i agree that the divorce rate i sway to high

Answer 4

I say, it's 2008, so anything goes. It's better you're having this baby out of wedlock now than in 1950 when you and the poor baby would suffer.

As far as the baby goes, I think people feel badly that the baby won't have two married parents in the home. But if you're committed to each other (you and the dad) and you live together, it's the same as being married, ultimatly to your kid. And that's all that matters-that the kid has a loving mom and dad close at all times.

Answer 5

i say who cares. your gonna love that baby right along with everyone else. your not the 1st person of the year to have a baby out of wedlock so CONGRATS on the baby!

Answer 6

Just don't let it get to you too much.  As long as you two love each other and your kids and are good parents....it's all that matters.

The people who are uncomfortable about it are usually extremely judgmental people who "can't see outside the box"

Answer 7

Hey, I totally agree. I had two kids out of wedlock and I don't care. People make comments about how they need to be in a stable home with 2 loving parents. UM.....that's what my kids had before we were married.  People are so stuck in their old ways. We still love our babies just as much as a married couple. I'm now married and expecting #3 an am looking forward to having the same last name this time. that the only thing that changes when you get married. I felt like a married couple before we signed the papers. My dad was devastated that I was pregnant before we got married but he is very religious and it looked bad to him from the church. He is now very happy because he knows we have a solid relationship and didn't just get married because we had kids.