What is your opinion on having a baby shower for a second baby?

Question

I had my daughter (after years of infertility) back in 2006. I had an awesome baby shower at that time. I am now 22 weeks pregnant with another girl. I am going to be able to reuse a lot of stuff, especially the big item like crib, car seat, stroller, high chair, etc. However, there are some obvious things that need replacing and some things I never had with my first daughter that I'd like with this one.

My question is, what do you think about having a baby shower if this isn't your first baby? Does it matter that this baby will also be a girl? My last shower was given by 3 friends and was almost all friends that attended. My sister has offered to throw a shower this time, so it will some of the same friends, but also more family this time.

Thanks!

Answer 1

I think all babies deserve to be showered and celebrated.  If you've got someone offering to do a shower - go for it!  Maybe make it a themed shower like a diapers & wipes shower?  That way you'll be getting what you need instead of just more cute clothes (which it sounds like you probably got a lot at the first child's shower).  

Congrats on Baby #2!

Answer 2

Normally you don't have a baby shower for the second one unless you know it is of the opposite s*x then your first one, Some have a small party to announce the next baby  and guest can bring something for the baby or the mother.

Answer 3

I personally don't like the idea of showers for 2nd babies, especially since you have most of the stuff from the 1st one.

Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 4

From my understanding to etiquette is that a 2nd baby does not get a baby shower, unless you're having your 2nd baby after a long time.

The point of baby showers is to get people to buy you presents, they will but don't force them to by holding a baby shower.

Answer 5

I say go for it..  the second baby is just as special.  Just make it a bit more casual.  It's a "#2 shower"..  I'm sure you would love some cute new outfits for her!

Answer 6

my family dont believe in that

every baby is a blessing

every pregnancy you get a shower

its a way family helps you out

but that dont mean you can keep popping out babies

our family dont have many grandchildren or babies

so our aunts and uncles want they want to spoil there brother's & sister's grandchildren

Answer 7

I've always believed if its the same s*x again then you don't get another shower.  

Answer 8

We threw a shower for my sister fore each one of her kids (she has 3) the first was a big shower the second & 3rd were diaper showers. We put on the invitation to bind diapers & wipes but people brought outfits and other stuff also but all we asked for were diapers & wipes. I don't see a problem with a shower for each baby especially if you are not asking for big items again.

Answer 9

Don't listen to anyone about not being able to have another shower I had a boy the first time and a boy this time and I will have a shower.

It is about family and friends wanting to welcome the baby to the family and helping with the things you need. I was reading up on it and it is called a baby sprinkle, kinda lame sounding but it shows that it happens all the time.

You enjoy your time and let your family & friends spoil the baby if they want to.

Answer 10

The rule of thumb is that you DON'T have a second shower, especially if it's the same gender. You're going to get gifts anyway so there is no need for a shower.

Have a Welcome to the World party for your baby when she arrives. BBQ outside with family(weather permitting) or have a pot-luck indoors. Every baby deserves a celebration but having a second shower so close together is a bit tacky.

Answer 11

I am sorry, but i would have to say NO!!  I had my first daughter in 2005. I found out in 2006 I was pregnant with baby girl 2. we did not have a baby shower but invited family & friends over for a bbq and a diaper raffle ( for every package of diapers or wipes  friends or family brought with them they were entered in a drawing for a 25$ ,10$ or 5$ gift card) In Dec of 2007 we found out we were pregnant again... this time we did the same thing only we offered gas card instead of gift cards.

Both parties for baby 2 and 3 were a huge success!  we did recieve a ton of diapers and wipes as well as baby afghans and quilts and one or two outfits. we did not ask for gifts of demand that they bring diapers or wipes.  we put entry fee optional!  we did have people that did not participate in the drawing, but we did not invite them for diapers we envited them to help celebrate the births/soon to be birth of our girls

Answer 12

i'm on my fourth and i'm having a baby party it wont be until after the baby is born it's more like a welcome home i'm not asking for anything it will just give friends and family a chance to see the baby and give me a chance too see people i have not seen in about two months because I'm too tired too socialize right now

Answer 13

I dont see why it would not be fair to have a baby shower for this baby i think its very fair, to have a baby shower even if you had 5kids =] its a party where you celebrate the birth of the baby soon. But to tell you the baby registrys are really no help because most people wont even bother to look at it or get anything off it they just get what they want it happened to me and alot of people i know and ive seen people say it on herre.

Answer 14

Etiquette says no shower after the first baby, and no showers EVER thrown by family members.  People who want to buy a baby gift are going to buy a gift.  But people who have already given a baby gift with the first baby shouldn't be put on the spot by inviting them to another shower.

Answer 15

no shower for second baby, esp if it is the same s*x. You will probably reciece gifts form people who visit you and the baby,, that should be enough. Don't have a baby if you cannot afford to buy what it needs.  

Answer 16

Everyone of my friends have had more then one kid, everyone of them has had a baby shower evertime. I have never questioned it or gave it another thought.

Answer 17

Our children were 5 years apart, both boys but my family and friends threw me another shower because we kept nothing from our first son. I think when you still have the good bulk of things you shouldn't. Just my opinion!

Answer 18

that depends. I'm having another one but my first was in 2005 after hurricane rita so most of my family, myself included, was homeless and couldn't make it. So I'm had a small one with my first and plan on having a big one this time. Plus this one is a boy and we are in the process of getting a new house so i really need it.

Answer 19

i just had a second one in june. my son was born 4 yrs agao n now i am preg with a girl... its ok as long as babys s*x is different i think.... however they say if there is more then a 5 yr gap  and is same s*x then you can do it   too... its no set rule if u can or can not... my 2nd one i just had now i called diaper shower... i had evryone bring me a bag of diapers instead of the lotions and things and i registered just for gift cards which i made optional.. people dont show up for a party wiuth out anything anyways..... i think its up to you truthfully and how many people will come.. regardless itsa life and worth celebrating if u do not ahve anothe baby shower have a welcome to the world party after birth...

Answer 20

I personally wouldn't do it for another girl.  I had a girl in '05 and had a baby shower before my son was born in April and got a few cute boy gifts which I needed since everything I had was pink.  Also realize that people will bring gifts when they visit you and the baby.

Answer 21

1 i agree with what you wrote about charisma.. and she dumb that answer got me mad. but i say go for it.. its been about 2 years ago.. and although you do have alot of good.. big things to re-use its been long enough and a baby shower for 2nd would be fine. you dont have to do a huge one maybe just close friends and family at house something small since you wont be needing any big items just bottles, pacifers, clothes, little things and things you need that you didnt with the first. my mom says people who have more than one baby shower shouldnt have it right after the other.. few years later since people usually dont keep what they have. either sell it or give it to someone else who is having a kid so they wont have to bother getting it. so go head knock yourself out i say its a good idea.  

Answer 22

Usually if it is the same s*x I would say no.  But for my sister who had  another girl two years later we did a second shower, but the shower was diapers and wipes.  This way it didn't make anyone feel like they had to go out and spend big money.  It actually turned out really well and everyone had a great time because with diapers and wipes everyone knows what you brought.  So everyone got to really socialize and eat fabulous food.

Answer 23

go ahead girl!!! iam having a second baby shower and I'm having another girl, be happy and congrats!

Answer 24

I think with the 2nd child that there should only be a baby shower if it is the opposite s*x of the 1st child.

Answer 25

If your friends and family want to celebrate the upcoming birth of this child then I would let them. I had a shower for my second child because he was a boy (our first was a girl) and because my MIL insisted on it. It was mostly family and family friends who attended. Now I am pregnant with our third child, another girl, and she is once again insisting on throwing a shower with the reasoning that every child should be celebrated. I was against it in the beginning and still would rather not have one, but if our family and friends want to celebrate this child as well who am I to say no? Well, I would be the big bad DIL and I am too tired for that :). I would let your sister throw the shower. If there are things that need to be replaced put them on the registry, as long as small items that would be appreciated. I would refrain from putting any big ticket items on there though (it sounds like you already have them anyways). Take care, and have fun with it!

Edit: Lol, I guess we are tacky! I knew that anyways- I am the only one who doesn't wear socks with sandals in our family =).