What is your opinion on large age differences in marriage?

Question

I'd like to know what other people think about people who marry that are 5, 10, 15, or 20 years apart. (I think 5-10 years is fine... 15 is pushing it, and 20 is a no.)

Answer 1

your communication skills and common interests are far more important

I am going to turn 47 next month, my wonderful wife just became 31

(thats over 16 yrs difference)

Answer 2

I think that 5 should be the maximum, because i've seen a 60 year old man married to a 34 year old. AND THATS JUST WRONG!!

Answer 3

When I was in my mid-forties, I had two girlfriends who were in their mid-twenties.  They kept this old man nice 'n warm in bed...

Answer 4

I'm 19 and my husband is 29 :)... we have a wonderful relationship... and we love each other greatly... at first a lot of people had negative comments about our age difference, but once you get married, all that s**+!t vanishes... and people stop talking... LOL

Answer 5

My husband's in his early 50's and we're very happy together.  My opinion on large age difference marriage is...it works if you really love each other.

Answer 6

None of my business

Its their life not mine plus i dont stick my nose into other peoples lives.

Learn to do the same.

Answer 7

I believe that people need to find someone who makes them happy.

Someone that believes in similar values and goals, and wants the things you want. If that person is 25 or 30 yrs older than you, it could still work, but you have to realize a few hard facts. The person will die before you, most likely, if you have children the other parent will be older, and you may have different friends... etc. Just be aware.

I'm 29 and my husband is 55. It's difficult at times because he has a disease that he got after we married. You have to stick with it.

:)  

Answer 8

I give this a 5 yr rule. 5 years younger or older. But that just me.

Answer 9

If you love someone would it really matter how old they were. Remember that people marry for a lot of different reasons.

Answer 10

My husband is 10 years older then me. We have never really thought about the age difference,  We love each other and that is all that matters to us, who cares what other people think.  We just celebrated our 19th anniversary on the 26th and are looking foward to many more years together.

Answer 11

In our society, the stage of the age difference depends upon whether the union is a young female with an older male, or if it is an older female with a younger male.

Our society dictates that it is necessary to protect the female from abuse, and degradation.   A young female/older male, usually is viewed as inappropriate because of the young females innocence and the probability of the older males maliciousness.   In those cases, society limits such unions, until the female reaches the age of maturity deemed appropriate by the community.    The spacing difference of age between the couple is not really a factor that should concern anyone provided that the female has reached maturity.   The reality of a young female/older male, is that while the couple are first joined, the female is accorded the protection of the older male, and she is take care of, and provided for by the older male.   As they both age, and the union endures, the roles switch, and the younger female takes on the role of protector, providing care for the aging older male.   Such unions are usually not considered "normal", because they are often violated by infidelity on both sides.

As far as an Older female marrying a younger male, society views her actions, as controlling, and again, as the couple age, the relationships tend to flounder, as the younger male looses interest in the aging female, and again infidelity occurs.