What is your opinion on my boyfriend? We are both adults?

Question

We've been together for 10 months. I have met his family (because he wanted me too) and he has met mine. We are always planning trips together and we truly love each other. He sounds pretty serious up to that point. I want to take things slow too, but he has said a few times that he likes having fun with his roommates. We've only been together for 10 months, but, should I continue to go with the flow?

Thanks everyone

Answer 1

like female roomates? You didn't really explain this so well..

Don't let him sleep with other people.. But if he like drinks with Male room mates or something thats one thing.. but no one should sleep with or party with other girls if hes in a relationship..

But i still dont really know what you  mean exactly?

Answer 2

Well one day when u guys r out on a date just ask him Where ur relationship is going. But if u like where things r u going then just go with the flow.  Also maybe u should go over his friend's house preferably without him knowing.



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Answer 3

It depends on what his "having fun" means. It is healthy in all relationships for each partner to have their own done time. As long as he is not going out and chatting up other girls or doing anything that is being untrue to you. If he is doing things that make you uncomfortable than let him know.

Answer 4

OK I think I have missed something....what is the problem?

Answer 5

I speak from a mountain of experience in this area.

I was married for 7 years to a woman I knew only 3 months. The time we spent together was always great. However its not the moments that you are together and how you spend them together, that makes the relationship, but the moments you are apart and what you spend doing in that time when your apart.  I mean if he's going out doing a guy thing like having A beer and playing golf, that's fine, however if its going to the strip club and habitually going out to the club scene with with the boys..... well that might be crossing the line as far as things go.

I started dating a woman who I met through work, and initially we were colleagues ... and friends, we would take turns cooking dinner, hang out, drink a beer, catch a movie, watch sports games, sky dive... well pretty soon, it turned into something more. I am glad to say we are still together.... after 2 years.. and in the end its about what you do together, just as much as it is what you do apart.. I am glad you are happy and hopefully he can reciprocate the same intensity of feelings with the same respect you do.

Answer 6

He needs to find a balance between you and his friends so if he doesn't know where to draw the line, give him an ultimatum

Answer 7

What is 'having fun with roommates'?

If it means hanging out with his friends - then you don`t need to be worried

If it means, he wants to have s*x with other women - then you may have a problem.

Answer 8

Personally, I would go with the flow. You can't live with regrets.  You don't want to wake up one day and wonder" what if I didnt hold back" or "what if I continued with how things were going"

Ithats just my opinion...live each day to the fullest

Answer 9

It depends on if you are happy. I guess I don't understand your question. 10 months is a short time and you want to take it slow, so is the problem with his roommates? If you want to take it slow, and he does too, and you have been together for only a few months, then it sounds like it is going well. If you are trying to get control, you will ruin it.  

Answer 10

actually, you aren't taking it slow if you already think that you truly love each other after ten months....

Answer 11

The man is only hangin out with his friends!! I mean you can't stop him from having friends whether they're married or single. It' not like he's hanging out/seeing other women. Besides don't you have friends that you do things with and have "fun" with? There's no difference!!

Answer 12

lol are you saying he might be g*y? i got that hint wen u said his roommates dont have gfs

if he was g*y dont worry he wudnt waste his time with a girl he wud go out with guys :)

Answer 13

I think by 10 months you should know what you really want from a relationship and it sounds like you do. However you said he likes having fun with his room mates, but how so?

In my honest opinion, I think you both need to sit down and decide where you stand in the relationship and where it's going to end up.