What is your opinion..?

Question

on a single woman with a good job adopting a child because she decided not to marry?

Answer 1

Simple - all children deserve a loving permanent home.  If a single woman can offer that to a child - her reasonings are not important (i.e. not wanting to get married).

Answer 2

I was a single mother for awhile and I cherish those times with just me and my daughter, she had my father and brothers around for male figures, I am now married with another child which a don't regret but I will always remember when I was single it was something special, I say go for it there are plenty of children out there that don't have anyone, If you adopt, the child will have you and your family, its more then what they have now

Answer 3

Depends on what constitutes a good job. Long hours? A lot of stress? Any guarantee of long-term employment? Will she be able to go to school plays, soccer games, and parent/teacher conferences?

Adopted children need a lot of special attention, especially in the beginning, to help them form healthy attachments to their new family. Handing them off to a nanny or daycare right from day one is not in the best interest of the child.

But if she can work from home or on a flexible schedule, and doesn't mind changing diapers with one hand while typing on the computer with the other and simultaneously talking on a conference call, well then she's probably got a chance of making it work.

Answer 4

I think, that if she has thought about it that much, and really decided that its what she wants - and you'd be asked plenty of questions by the adoption agency, then good on you. Its tough being a single mum - i am one, but also incredibly rewarding. There are so many orphaned children in the world, that accepting one with love cannot be anything but a good thing.

Answer 5

it's not my place to judge anyone.  the woman should do what feels right for her.

Answer 6

If a single woman is willing to love and support a child, that is awesome.  It's a big responsibility and there are alot of kids out there that just want a Mommy or daddy or both!!

Answer 7

i say more power to her.... many children grow up very happy being raised by just one parent.....

Answer 8

Go for it if it's what you want to do!  There are OVER 625,000 children awaiting adoption in the US ALONE.  A loving home is all that is needed and you don't need a partner to have a loving home.

Peace,

Jenn

Answer 9

what is wrong with that?  it is no diff than a mom who got divorced.  well actually, it is better because the child wouldnt have the parents fighting to deal with.

Answer 10

I really don't think it would be great.  I believe children need the mother and father figures to be well balanced in life.

Answer 11

I think it's absolutely fine, but she might want to clear up WHY the biological mother is placing.

Infants who are currently in the care of their mothers are not "waiting to be adopted"

The children who are waiting to be adopted are in the foster care system. If a single mom wants to adopt an infant, then she should be very up front with the biological mother about the fact that she is single.

Sometimes that is why young single mothers place children, because they think the baby should have both a mother and a father and it would be heartbreaking for a single mom to place her child and then find out she went through all the pain of losing her child for no reason.

Adopting through foster care is really SUCH a wonderfull thing, so many kids DO need homes and don't have mothers who are willing or able to care for them safely and adequately.

A large portion of infants placed for adoption however already have loving mothers that would raise their children if they didn't think that being single were a detriment to their child. These children are not at risk of being abandoned.

They are only at risk of being raised by another single mother. Not so bad really, if you don't think there's anything wrong with being a single mother, right?

Answer 12

Go For It!!  There is no reason a single female or male for that matter should not adopt a child.  Just because you choose not to spend your life with a spouse does not in any way mean that you should not be a parent.  Most people will say that a child needs both a mother and father in their lives.  This is not true.  A child needs someone who is going to be there for them emotionally, physically, financially etc.  However I do suggest that you have male friends that can be positive role models of the male s*x.  Not a father figure but a role model.  Children learn by example if a child is never around positive males they will know nothing about how males interact in relationships when they are older.  Just a suggestion.

Answer 13

I'm not one to judge any women's decision but I feel very strongly that if possible a child should be raised by a mother and a father or at least a strong fatherly figure in the home. But like I said, it's her choice and if it's good for her and the child then who should have any say?

Answer 14

I am all for it.  A great home is a great home.  I don't care if it is a single mom, single dad, married couple, engaged couple, g*y couple....to many children out in the world living in bad situations with nobody to love them.

Answer 15

I am a single woman with a good job who is currently looking into adoption.  I think anyone who can give a child a good, safe, loving and nurturing home should be allowed too.  As a single women, you have to look into some things that some married couples may not-like child care and what do I do if my child is sick, but if you have extended family, close friends or the means to hire child care for when you need it then I don't see any problems.

Answer 16

I think that is awesome. Go for it. Every child needs a loving home and if that is something you can provide then more power to you.

Answer 17

I dont see that it is a problem especially if she has a good support team to help when needed.  I am single and chose to adopt.  I am glad that I have friends close by and though my family is in another state they are only a phone call away.  The first child I adopted was older(11 years) and now I am looking at another 1-2 children.

Dependent on your job, it may be easier to adopt a young child that at least is in school.  Adopting a baby for a single person is more difficult as now with open adoptions most birth parents choose a mom and dad over a single mom.  Adopting overseas is also an option.  Either way they cost the same unless you go through cps or foster/adopt or one of the state systems.  It is also less costly to adopt a child over the age of 6-7.

Best of luck!  email me privately for phone number if you want more info on my experiences or some good agency names.  Sheri

Answer 18

you should do it, if you have a stable life.

No matter if a kid is adopted or not when they are a teen they will always use emotional blackmail! They dont mean to but they might.

Answer 19

I think it is wonderful.

It used to be years ago that single parents could not legally adopt. That is no longer the case. There are thousands of kids waiting to be placed with forever families.

Just look at this website and it will blow your mind.

http://www.adoptuskids.org/

Of course, it would be easier with someone there to help you, but if you really want to parent a child do not let the fact that you did not marry stop you from being a part of a child's life. You could completely change the future for that child!

Answer 20

My opinion is that it is ideal for a child to have a two parent home...however, having a one parent home is certainly preferable to being in an orphanage or foster home!  Every child needs a forever family.

If it's you...go for it...if it's a friend...tell them to go for it.

Answer 21

I AM A SINGLE ADOPTIVE MOM FROM HIS BIRTH AND NOW, 21 YEARS LATER HE HAS GIVEN ME A BEAUTIFUL GRANDAUGHTER!

HIS BIOLIGICAL MOTHER KNEW I WOULD BE RAISING HIM ALONE AND MY BOY AND I HAD A WONDERFUL LIFE TOGETHER.

I'M SURE AT TIMES HE MISSED HAVING A DAD, BUT HE HAD STRONG MALE ROLE MODELS IN THE FAMILY.

HE HAD A LOT OF EXPERIENCES LIKE CRUISES AND OTHER TRAVEL, LOTS OF DISNEYLAND TRIPS, ETC. BECAUSE IT COSTS A LOT LESS FOR ONE ADULT AND ONE CHILD TO TRAVEL, ETC.

IF YOU KNOW YOU CAN BE A DEDICATED AND LOVING MOMMY, GO FOR IT.  YOU WILL BE PARTNERS IN LIFE, AND IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE!!

Answer 22

Go for it!  Know that it will be difficult doing it on your own...but heck, it's difficult raising kids with a partner.  And, if it keeps a child out of foster care or gets them out of a difficult situation....all the better!

Answer 23

I believe if she does not want to marry than that's her decision. However she does need to keep in mind that a single mother is work , and you will have to be things for the child that the dad would normally do. And financially can be another struggle, but if she has a great job , then she does not have to worry about that.

Answer 24

i think that it's a great idea if she wants to be a mother!  she should definitely not get married just so that she can be a parent.  as a single mom, i will tell you that parenting and running a household by yourself is a real challenge.  sometimes i wish i had someone to help me when my daughter needs me and all the groceries need to be put away....

Answer 25

I think it's fine. A child deserves a good home.