What is your opinion regarding this situation?

Question

So my boyfriend is broke, he ows me almost $2000.00. He hasn't had work in a few weeks, but will be starting a temporary job that should pay him over $2500.00. He is pretty religouse, and believes that he needs to give 10% to charity of every pay check that he gets.This means he would give $250.00 to charity. He believes that giving this money to charity is priority before paying me back. After paying me back, and giving money to charity, he will only have about $250.00 left, which means that I will probably be stuck paying for his stuff until he gets a new job. Considering I am pregnant, and he doesn't have more than $50.00 in his bank account right now, I think that he shouldn't be giving money to charity right now. His belief is that if he gives money to charity, GOD will help him pay for everything. I am not religouse like he is and completely disagree. Please give me your opinions...all are welcome.

Answer 1

"never lend anybody anything you wouldn't give them"...

best advice i ever got.

Answer 2

Ask him, What is more important, God, or our family? If he says God, then you need to think about what is best for you and your child. Do you think you can live with a man who isn't willing to support you? Who is willingly giving money away to charities because of someone who may not exist? You need to think about the future of your child.

Answer 3

I don't want to insult you in anyway, but that is such a ridiculous/r****d/etc. reason not to pay you back that money. First of all money should never be affiliated with any religion; religion is based upon one;s beliefs and actions, not how much money one can put down. Also, There are other ways besides putting money down for charity, like community service. Overall, your boyfriend's reason for not paying you back sounds to stupid; and maybe your boyfriend is hiding something else from you; something that he doesn't want you to know. All possibilities are acceptable.  

Answer 4

Then...combining the money in his bank account and what he has left, he has $300. As a couple, however, you have $2,300. It really comes down to what you do with the $2,000 dollars. You're looking at your relationship in sides. What are you going to do with the $2,000? Spend it in some strange place? Or are you going to use it to support your family.

In simpler terms, your argument makes it seem like the money disappears when he pays you back. What really happens to it?

Answer 5

Genuine spirituality is an internal and largely instinctive matter. "Religion" functions as (1) reminding people that their inner spirituality exists and deserves nurturing, without which "reminder service" spirituality might eventually disappear from human culture. And (2) Religion gives creepy overbearing sanctimonious idiots an excuse to take refuge in strictly external phony forms of rank superstition to rip off everyone they come into contact with, while pretending that they are superior for doing it. Good luck with all this, as it is common as dandruff. However, with consciousness raising that a pregnant mother qualifies as a charity, who knows what might happen? Regards, Larry.

Answer 6

Everyone is entitled to their beliefs..... Political, Religious etc...  

The main issue here is"

You loaned your boyfriend money which he has agreed to pay you back as promised, and the charity. as he as enough money to do so.

After you get paid back your loan, if you do not like your boyfriend commitment to charity you can take your money and leave him or stay with him and continue to support him.

Now the next question is..... what happens to the baby?

In the final analysis..... the choice is yours.

Answer:  If I were in your position, I would cut my losses and get out as soon as he returned the money.

May God bless you.

Answer 7

If I were you I would tell my boyfriend that God gave him a brain and to use it if you really cant afford to give because of other debts than you wait and  give when you can afford it.

Answer 8

The whole story is as if taken from a sentimental movie! Even the audiences wouldn't like the hero (here, your BF) & would love the heroin's discomfort (here, You)! They'll give a big hand (applause) when they would watch you remain silent accepting all the troubles & still go on loving your BF. They'll give a big hand, when they would watch the hero donating, depriving (here, 'not refunding loan') his sweet-love! That's the magic of a commercially hit movie!

If you think that you might get pregnant by a boyfriend, then it's your part to take action ahead. (She, who could lend an amount like $2000, is supposed to be solvant enough at her troubled time.)

I'm really happy to know that at least your BF is going to return his loan! He had an option to pay you in two/four instalments. You should honor his good attitude, I suppose. You may not religious that much but as a gentle lady, you should pay respect to your BF's belief, whatever religion he follows.

I do apologize, since I'm not from your society or culture; I simply weighed the whole by the scale of my society & culture.

Peace be with you both.

Answer 9

cut your loses  while you can and get away from the guy...

Answer 10

My opinion is that Money has come between Lovers.  Lovers now weigh everything on a monetary scale.

Do you also divide your love this way?  You gave me this much love and I this much.  Now you owe me this much and don't squander it on you God.  Give mine all back in one instalment!

This is business.  That is what my opinion is!  Since you asked!