What is your take on pre-marital s*x? ?

Question

What is your take on pre-marital s*x? ?

Answer 1

I thought it was fine before I was married. After I got married I was really disappointed that I hadn't waited. If you have premarital s*x and then find someone you truly love down the line, there is a good possibility you will regret it.

Answer 2

I don't see a problem, unless there is a baby involved.  In that case I think  there should be a solid relationship and a home, jobs, all that stuff that a baby deserves. So good birth control and s*x...no big deal.Wouldn't it be nice to wait tho, and have all that anticipation for the Wedding Night???

I've had my share of s*x, but it was never FUN.  I always was w/my husband  until divorce, and then  not many men,  now married again...and it is not FUN...it is serious...a real involvement w/Love...not fun.  Just me,   our way of doing it.

Answer 3

When there's two we usually split the take 50/50. It gets kinda complicated with three or more.

Answer 4

I'll take all I can, thank you.

Answer 5

i think its fine to have premarital s*x as long as its done with a mature attitude.

ie, people shouldn't be doing it to fit in, or gain acceptance, or to look cool... which is the reason most young people seem to do it these days... but in my opinion it's fun and good as long as both people do it out of love or for mutual pleasure.

Answer 6

I Believe that in the day and age it's fine. if u both agree on it and use precautions. you should be happy. But i believe anyone under 16 doing it, is too young. (my opinion). I've only ever had 2 sexual partners and they were both partners. I only worry about having a child out of wedlock. I'm 24 and i take the pill correctly. But i just worry about how my would parents react if i fell pregnant unexpectedly. I think if i was engaged i'd feel better. anyhow that's my opinions.

Answer 7

I believe that it's a persons choice whether or not to wait until they're married to have s*x, or to do it before they're married.

I'm 17 years old and pregnant, and i'm not married. & I've never been happier. I don't wish I had waited. I have a beautiful baby on the way, and i'm going to be the best mother my baby could ever have.

It all depends on the person.

Answer 8

i wish i could have waited, but im blessed with 2 :)

Answer 9

who doesnt do it.

Im 20 pregnant, and My partner and I are not geting married until im like 25 or so. Its just not important at all.

Answer 10

As long as both parties are using "safe" methods, I think it's okay.  It's fun, even.  :)  But the danger is having a child out of wedlock- it's soo hard to have a child on your own, and hard on the child to go back and forth between parents, that it's too risky, imo, not to use birth control.  (no offense meant to anyone, just my opinion.)

Answer 11

I think it's a total individual choice and no one should be judged because their view is different from someone elses.

My partner and I have been together for over 7 years, have a 4 year old girl, have had 2 miscarriages, am nearly 3 months pregnant again, own a house together, a business and cars, have the most loving relationship, are both extremely happy, have been through some horrible times together such as the tragic loss of my younger brother which triggered major depression for me, and have been through other family dramas, and have always stuck together. We got engaged probably 8 months ago and may get married, may not. In my opinion you can't get any more committed than what my partner and I already are so why spend all that money to get a piece of paper to say 'you are married'. to us, we are married. I could marry him today and it wouldn't make me love him any more than I already do.

So my view on pre marital s*x would be if you want to do it, do it, if you don't, then don't.

I actually think, well if you plan on marrying the person anyway, why wait to have s*x? You're going to be doing it once you're married anyway.

Apart from that, just because you're married doesn't mean the s*x is going to be any different than when you weren't married, and it doesn't mean you love the person any more or less, and it doesn't mean you're going to be together any longer than other people like my partner and I for example

Answer 12

Mad props to anyone who waits but most people just don't do that anymore.

Answer 13

If both partners are ready, willing, and regularly being tested for STD's so as not to spread them unknowingly (assuming an infected person is mature enough not to spread them knowingly), then I really don't see why I need to have an oppinion on what two people do in private.

Answer 14

use protection..enjoy..

Answer 15

s*x either prior to marriage or post the marriage should not be taboo as far as avoidance of unwanted pregnancy and STD is ensured.  s*x is a natural instinct.  It is purely a physical need like hunger, thirst.  It has nothing to do with marriage.  Marriage is a social arrangement that provide you a partner and legitimate right to have s*x.  The system of marriage is not to be completely scorned off too because it can arrest the indulgence of promiscuity and free s*x in the society.  While s*x is a physical need and there is no harm in gratifying it, the risks that inherently lay in premarital or extramarital s*x are manifold. This is what I would like to opine overtly but if you seek my sneak view, I would like to give free rein to your potentially forceful s*x drive.  Because the estatic pleasure you derive from s*x can not be derived from anything else on the earth. It is indeed a phenomenonal.  

Answer 16

I wish I would have waited.

Answer 17

only with your would be husband.

Answer 18

It happens.  It has always happened (in every society, even those with stringent laws and religious beliefs against it).  It will always happen.  There is no way to stop it.  And, as long as people are educated and being safe about it, it's none of my business to begin with.  

I wish other people would take this same point of view as the s*x lives of total strangers are no one's business but their own.  

Peace,

Jenn

Answer 19

If you're gonna do it, be safe about it!

Answer 20

yeah well good luck with having a family life.  you now have a 20 year commitment and i can bet the guy wont want to be with you when you are going thru a pregnency.

and to the girl who says who cares,  well what if you new baby son says that to you?  will you tell him or even her that same thing? i bet when you both grow up that you wont feel the same.

Answer 21

It is how u see it. if you think pre-marital s*x is ok..no one can change your mindset. And if you think it is something you should be careful about then you need to take care of the situation on your own. s*x is lucrative but everything suits at its own time. before or after it doesnt hold that much meaning. You basically lose the importance.

its like if you score good marks in ur unit tests, ull feel good. if u score good marks in final exams ..ull feel great. But when u score good marks in your board exams...you feel awesome, your life changes from there. So thats the kind of impact you have when it comes to s*x with the right person(marriage is like that board exam) where you should be good.

And ull feel the right passion and love whe u do it once married. Can go which ever way u like...but as the times are chaning these thoughts are becoming old fashioned...so you can go have s*x any number of time you want or you can chose a guy for lifetime and have different experiences with him with full passion n endless love.

All dpends on ur thoughts and surroundings..