What job could we give them?

Question

My partner and I are getting married next year and we have the celebrants, bridesmaids, best men, flower girl, page boy, readers, gift bearers, Eucharistic ministers, music people and ushers sorted for the mass part.We are both very close to our grandparents (4 people in total) and would love for them to participate in the ceremony but we can't think of anything to get them to do! any ideas??

Answer 1

Ask your grandmother & his to be your personal attendants, and ask the grandfathers to be your partner's

Answer 2

let them greet people at the church and reception?

Answer 3

I think it is better that they just enjoy the day and not have to worry about having to perform.  Relax.

Answer 4

The best they can give you is their presence.  They can hold flowers, they can be present for a group photo, they can meet the children.  The most fun they can have is probably to meet the younger people.  

Answer 5

We just got them nice flowers and made sure they got their own portrait taken by the photographer.

Remember that although you want to involve EVERYONE you don't want your wedding to become a circus act.  I was at one wedding where 5 people sang, 4 people played instruments, 5 speeches....  people were starting to fall asleep!  I was a bridesmaid and I broke my heels I was standing and fidging so long- the wedding took like 3 hours!  LOL

Answer 6

each couple could do a reading each?

Answer 7

2

Answer 8

they can sit and watch

Answer 9

Instead of giving them a job to do, how about YOU honor THEM with flowers or a candle-lighting during the ceremony? Or have the officiant ask them to stand for a special blessing? Or have a special "grandparents dance" during the reception?

Answer 10

Have your grandparents walk first or after the flower girl... It would be nice for both sides of the family grandparents walk down the isle. What you think

Answer 11

In my wedding we honored them by having a song played for them & while it was playing we came down off the altar & brought them a flower. Just a nice way to let them know they were included...

Answer 12

what do you mean by readers, could you ask them to read something?

a poem maybe

are you sure that they will want that, having a responsibility can be quite stressful on a wedding so maybe they might want to just enjoy  your day!!!

Answer 13

just ask them to turn up / your wedding seems cluttered enough.

Answer 14

well i have asked my grandparents to do readings.  as there are 4 i would have them read from 2 poems.  so either they can alternate each line or 1 granparent reads half and then the other reads half.  hope this helps.

Answer 15

1) You could get them to stand at the door and greet people

2) they could walk down the aisle before you and take there seats

3)Read poems

4) show pictures and give a speech about what you were like when you were young

5) Have their special dance - just the four of them

6) You could just say that i know you havnt got a special job but i would like you to be there when i get ready ( and his grandparents be there for him) and support you

Answer 16

Why are you worrying about this?  You've already got loads going on.

Answer 17

You could have them give the readings but do be careful that you're not creating a three ring circus!

Bear in mind that you can feature multiple toasts during your reception or you could have them assist you when you cut the cake.  

Answer 18

Unfortunately I think your ceremony is filled up. You can include them in your processional, having them enter before your parents (are you walking in with your parents, or with your fiance? If with your fiance, your grandparents can possibly walk in with your parents). There's not really room in a mass to add other roles, nor would you want to lengthen it.

Have you considered the intercessions (Prayers of the Faithful) when selecting your readers? That is a nice role, and not too taxing. Remember, check that they do want to be in front of everyone (everyone participates, not just those with defined roles and extra work).

Otherwise I would recommend something at the reception for them, instead of at the wedding.

Answer 19

ummm decorators

Answer 20

They are grandparents they don't want anything to do, they have been through so many weddings they just want to sit back and enjoy.

Stop trying to organise everyone and let some people enjoy the day.

Answer 21

readings, walk down the aisle to their seats, a grandparents dance at the reception  

Answer 22

just be like hey can you like help us like try to do something

Answer 23

you could give them the job of sorting out the finances

Answer 24

they could walk up the isle too? if you want an amazing wedding and loooong wedding or give then readings

Answer 25

maybe give a toast, read a heart-felt poem, or sing.

hope that helps. :)

Answer 26

read scripture from the bible