What kind of Birthday gift do you give your child?

Question

That is constanly in trouble and always grounded?...I've gotten calls from the school 2 days last week, 2 days the week before, and this morning about her disruptive behavior. She's failing everything in school (She is very capable of doing the work), but has her attention elsewhere. She tends to be mouthy with me and doesnt listen. Today is her 13th birthday, and I dont think she DESERVES anything!....any suggestions?

Answer 1

give her a pencil.

no, jk. u could take her somewhere special. or maybe you could get her a gift card. or something like an ipod but make it rewards based so she has to be good to get it.

Answer 2

A book

Answer 3

I'd get her a trip to Sylvan Learning Center with a side trip of juevenile hall. good luck. thirteen year old girls are SO DUMB!

Answer 4

Frankly, I'd get her a fantastic card telling her how much I love her, and that'd be it.

Gifts are priveleges, be it birthday, Christmas, Easter, or any other occassion.  I know that's harsh, it killed me to do that this last Christmas, but it sure made an impact.  No party and no gifts, that's my vote. Good luck.

Answer 5

i think that she does deserve something more time with her parents thats what happened to my cusion her parents were never there 4 her and it started when she was 12. She dropped out of high school and is living with her druggy BF and is doing really bad and to prove im right my other cusions parents were always there 4 her and now shes a doctor with 3 kids and a husbond 4 3 years their both 25(my two cusions).

Answer 6

You need to let your daughter know how much you love her. Maybe you can make a scrapbook of all of the good times you and your daughter has had. Then maybe you can even get her favorite stuffed animal and sit the scrapbook along with it. These are two wonderful gifts that she can look at and remember how much you love her. The site below has a great selection of stuffed animals:

Answer 7

Why punish her on her only day of the year?  That will not solve the problems she is having and it just might encourage more because she will be hurt and angry with no other means of expressing them but to act out.  

If you do celebrate her birthday with cake and ice cream still at her age, continue the tradition.  If you're not the cake and ice cream kind of family, get her a nice card with a LITTLE something for herself.

Save the punishment for something else that would matter to her.  You didn't mention what the "elsewhere" is that is getting all of her attention and that may be the cause of the rift.  Talk to her to find out where she stands and what she's doing...it may be an eye opener and the best thing that has happened to her in a while.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I would not buy her anything. Maybe cake if that's your thing. If not, give her a hug and a birthday kiss.

Advise, give her a hug and a kiss everyday, even if you have to go into her room when she is sleeping. She needs to be reminded of your love. She is thirteen WOW. It is a scary and confusing time. Just be there for her.

God Bless!