What kind of a guy proposes to a girl after only 3 weeks?

Question

He had been talking to her online for about 6 or 9 months but she was in a relationship so they "pretended" to be friends (they lived in 2 different states). When her relationship failed, she ran off to the state where this guy was (supposedly living with some of her family). They spent some time together and three weeks later he proposes. Is that weird? If this guy or girl was your friend, what would you tell them?

Answer 1

They've know eachother for 10 months, what's the big deal?

Answer 2

My husband!  No online then, just lots of phonecalls.  Dating involves watching the same movie, listening to the same band, etc.  We were separated by over 2000 miles and got to really know each other by talking every day.  Much like a 6 month long oral resume'.  We knew more about each other than couples who had been dating for years.  He sublet his apartment, sold his furniture and drove his car and belongings that would fit from CO to FL 15 years ago much to the dismay of his friends who insisted he was crazy.  Proposed 3 weeks later, married the year after that.  This November we'll have been married 14 years and I truly believe we owe it all to those 6 months of phone calls.  By the way, I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage who were 3 and 7 at the time.  At 18 and 22 they are proud to call him their Dad and I still love him 100%!

Answer 3

I'd tell them to watch out--they can't possibly know each other very well! Somebody is off their rocker just a little.

Answer 4

Haha, this sounds exactly like my brother in law.  He did the same thing.  Met this girl online and talked to her for a while, they met each other 3 times and on the 4th he proposed.  I don't get it and I don't think it will last.  You can't really know someone when you live a few states away in my opinion.

Answer 5

maybe he really does love you.. a guy proposed me like 4 days after knowing me and now we're happily married.. i'm 24 now and he proposed me when i was 13. cool huh? but not all guys are the same. if you don't feel comfortable just tell him. if he really loves you he'll wait for you no matter how long it takes for you to be ready.

Answer 6

it certainly is weird.  i dont care how long they were chatting...3 weeks is not long enough to really get to know someone.  it's certainly not long enough to know someone enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.  there are many things that both of them could be hiding from each other.  those things will come out eventually and they might not like what they find out.  what's the rush, after all?  why not give things at least as long as they chatted (6-9 months) of in person, face time, and see what happens then.  you cannot get to know someone over chat, period!  it's way too easy to lie, obscure, and fabricate.

Answer 7

a stupid one.  

Answer 8

My husband proposed after 3 weeks...not sure if that's good or bad.  We're still together (6 years later) but things are rough.

Answer 9

I think it's a sign of possessiveness and a need to be in control.

Answer 10

My grandpa and grandma got married after they knew each other for two weeks.  75 years later, they are still together.

I guess a guy that knows what he wants would propose after three weeks.

Answer 11

congradulations?

Answer 12

y don't u watch a show called the secret life of an american teenager. its on tuesday nights at 8 or 9 on ABC family. it is a very good show. nd it has something like tht

Answer 13

My brother proposed after 1 week of dating.  They have been married for 17 years now.

Answer 14

a weak little insecure whimp of a man. sleep with them DONT marry them!

Answer 15

Chances are slim that it will work if she accepts and they marry right away.  I've heard of cases like this and it seems they never work out.

I think its okay to develop some feelings for someone after 3 weeks, but proposing is PREPOSTEROUS!  They need to REALLY get to know each other before making a SERIOUS commitment like that!

I would tell my friend not to rush it!

Answer 16

Well it ultimately depends on the nature of their online relationship. The truth is that if they have been in a relationship online, then that counts toward the 3 weeks, too. How do I know? Because I had an online relationship for half a year, visited her once for a week, then flew the girl out to where I lived and proposed to her. We've been married, happily, for almost eight years. So I am not in the position to be TOO critical. I am living proof that it could work

BUT-

It totally depends on the circumstances. The nature of the people involved and the nature of their relationship makes a HUGE difference. The fact that she was already in a relationship and ran off like this is a HUGE HUGE HUGE red flag. And the kind of guy who would propose in this situation after only three weeks is the kind of guy that is immature, rash, reckless, and impulsive- the exact kind of guy a smart girl does NOT want to marry.

And that is EXACTLY what I would tell them too.

My wife and I came upon one another innocently, were not looking for dates, and were therefore totally honest about ourselves from the beginning. We did not rush it, and things happened naturally. And we were totally exclusive, planned everything carefully, and thought it out. We were also both adults in our mid-20s who were in the financial and career situation to make the move, and we got our friends and family involved so we could check one another's life out. The circumstances, though, made the difference. I had just finished my Masters. What did I have to lose moving to Florida and giving it a try?

I don't know everything about the circumstances in your story, but based on what you say here, I'm not convinced the girl isn't making a big mistake. My situation shows it CAN work... but it is STILL an exceptional case.

Answer 17

I would tell them that they shouldn't marry right away.  I think that it takes about 2 years before you can know someone well enough to marry them.

Answer 18

My father met my mother and they were engaged just weeks later. This is without the benefit of 6+ months of chatting. They were married until he died. So it happens and sometimes it works out.

Answer 19

some people marry quick but I wouldn't worry about the guy I would worry about the girl sounds like she is on the rebound.

Answer 20

Hi I would like to know their age and maturity first

They are pp make such decision that fast

However if they are still not mature in thinking I would advise them to think twice and get their parent involve in the decision making

Maybe they have something untold that they need to get married

Answer 21

Yeah it's weird. I give that marriage 3 months.. tops.

Answer 22

That you are going to miss this wedding but you'll catch their next one.

Answer 23

If this guy or girl were my friend I would mind my own business and keep my mouth shut.  Somewhere in the back of my mind, I would be considering the over/under of it lasting but I wouldn't say anything unless I was specifically asked for my opinion.  I'd remain supportive of my friend and respect their decision.

Answer 24

Buddy holly proposed to his wife on the day they met

Answer 25

ugh he would be making a mistake. maybe he is settling...

um do you live in NC by chance. cuz a friend of mine told me a story just like this last night. weird.

Answer 26

Someone who is desperate, tell her to wait at least a year to get married.

Answer 27

A guy who drinks way to much Jim Beam during the day.