What kind of a man says "I hate that kid" re: his own young son.?

Question

Very difficult child from broken home. Child is so out of controll that his father, when at wits end says "I hate that kid!" w/in ear shot of child. Is this abussive and what effect can this have on the childs behavior/personality.

Answer 1

my dad used to say things like that and worse to us. We turned out ok  - we live moral and just lives and with good work ethics ,but the pain never goes away.  It stays inside your head forever.  I'm 36 and I still remember it.

Answer 2

aww poor thing that dad is an *** hole i don't care who it is it can be the prince of England or the word that dad sucks beans if its you then whatever if not report him that is just telling the kid get into trouble when you get older

Answer 3

he has no right to be called a father he's just a useless @ss

Answer 4

if the child is so out of control,maybe saying that prevents him from physical abuse.

Answer 5

It's called emotional abuse and in my opinion the father should be reported.  He is only adding to the child's problems and doesn't deserve to be a father.  The child would be better off in foster care than with this man.

Answer 6

One of the saddest things to hear may be that one of your parents hates you.  Kids take everything to heart.  It is abuse and I do not believe that a kind loving father suddenly began to say out loud that he hated his kid.  This man has probably been critical and unkind throughout his child's life which has led to an "out of control and difficult" child.  What I'm saying is that children act out when they feel unloved and when they witness grownup chaos that creates broken homes.  It's not his fault he's so out of control but unless things change dramatically he will probably just continue to become more and more angry and act out.

Answer 7

That is verbal abuse. He needs to get counseling or you need to leave him. He will destroy this child's self esteem. Call 1-800-4AChild for info.

Answer 8

Time for a therapist. Intensive individual and family counseling would be necessary to help heal this relationship.

Answer 9

Dude, not cool.

The last thing you need is to hear you own parents say that

Answer 10

emotional abuse....bad parent i'd say.

Answer 11

yeah, emotional abuse

it might affect the child because it might make it feel unloved and not "belonging" which could lead to problems

in the father's case, maybe he can't really handle all the responsibilty

the two need to get together talk it out, father take parenting class/anger management

Answer 12

What a d-bag.

Answer 13

Yes it is verbal and emotional abuse.  Both the child and the father need professional help such as joint counseling.  The child may need medication.