What kind of backgrounds do kids up for adoption come from?

Question

And what kind of family can adopt?

are they only babies, or are older children put up for adoption?

Answer 1

I am adopted.

I came from a very normal and decent background.

My parents weren't druggies or alcoholics, and my mother wasn't raped.  In fact, my parents got married later on in life.

I was given up for adoption because they were teenagers when I was born.  Yup, that's the only reason.  So I have had to live with this heart-ripping pain my entire life because they were young and society told them I was better off with older, richer parents.

But you know what?

I would MUCH RATHER have been poor and living hand-to-mouth for a few years, and be with my own parents, than to EVER be adopted.

People get older, you get jobs, your situation changes.  Adoption is forever, a very permanent solution to a very temporary "problem".

To the girl who said she's giving up her baby, I hope you realize that, that even though you might not be in the best situation now, it will probably improve in what, a year?   Three years?

And your baby will be gone forever if you give him away.

I've never wanted to be adopted, I don't care about "things" and a big house or having lots of stuff, I just wanted my MOTHER.

Answer 2

oh the stigma, the aching stigma.

you people really just don't know what you're talking about.

I"ll give you the poverty one, that is true Alot of parents are forced to surrender due to poverty.

the average american surrender-er, are in their 20's, educated mothers. These are NOT abusive parents, not povery stricken, they're very capable of raising their children. They have become victims of the adoption industy just as the adoptee who loses his/her mother has. They have been sucked into the system and brainwashing to believe that "they'll get over it" "they'll have more children" "their education is more important right now" "they're being heros," "doing the right thing" "doing whats best" "their child will be better w/older, financially secure strangers than the only life he's ever known."

Answer 3

Kids from every background imaginable are put up for adoption. Some kids are from mothers who are too young or not in a position to take care of them. Some come from abusive homes or were taken away from their families by child protective services. There are children waiting to be adopted who are any age from one week to seventeen years old. Usually the older the child is, the harder it is for an agency to adopt out the child. There are a lot more older kids waiting for adoption then younger kids. Most families who are stable can adopt. If you go through the state it tends to take a while. With a private adoption you usually cover all of the mothers medical costs and any adoption fees. If you go the private route do it through a well known agency with a history of successful adoptions. You can also adopt from a foreign country. I don't know much about foreign adoptions though.

Answer 4

Usually, they are from parents unable or unwilling to properly care for them.  Here are some from of the adopted kids from my own experience:

- The birth mother was a devout Christian.  She got pregnant while not married and did not want to marry the father.  She did not feel right keeping the child as an unmarried woman and didn't want to abort, as per her religious feelings, so she placed the child form adoption.  The adoption occured immediately after birth.

- The birth mother was more or less homeless and a drug addict.  She has had several kids with several different men and basically abandoned them to the state.  The kids were severely malnourished and had likely been physically abused.  They have long term emotional and developmental problems from the neglect and abuse.

- The birth mother is a drug addict.  Her kids were all born testing positive for drugs.  The state removed the kids from her due to the drug usage and general neglect.  She tried to work with CPS to keep her kids, but wasn't able to get her life in order.  The father was likewise unstable.  Eventually, her and the father's parental rights were removed by the state.  One of the kids had never lived with their mother (hospital and foster care), the other had lived with the mother and other family for two years.  Both kids were delayed due to the drugs and lack of good care, but are catching up in their adoptive home.

I know others, but I don't know their stories well enough to repeat here.

Answer 5

Adopted children come from all different backgrounds.  I am slightly insulted by those who believe ALL children who are adopted come from some problematic background.  Take my case for example, my biological mother was in college, objected to abortion and realized that she would not be able to care for me.  Instead of pawning me off on family or trying to get by by the skin of her teeth to inadequately provide for me, she decided put me up for adoption.  She is now an accomplished veternarian with her own animal hospital and waited until she was married before having any further children.  

It is my view that the prevalence of adoption in the past was a function of the tabboo of pregnancy out of wedlock and the moral objection to abortion.  Although there are those who would still object to abortion, as I do, the tabboo of such pregnancy in the West is non-existance in most sub-cultures.  For whatever reason, be it emotional bonds or bolstering one's self-esteem, babies are not being put up for adoption as much these days after birth, but due to these young mothers' and occasionally fathers' incapability to care for children properly, as they may have been if it wasn't for their parent's irresponsibility, often leads to these children coming from problematic backgrounds.

That begin said, there are still children being placed for adoption who do not come from such backgrounds.  It is becoming more prevalent for overseas adoptions, especially for older children.

Answer 6

Children from birth up until adulthood (18) can get adopted though if your adopting a newborn you wont actually get it until its about 4 months or older depending on the circumstances.

Some children especialy teens dont get adopted, they'll stay in long term foster care until they are 18 or leave home.

Any type of family can adopt, but as far as i know you cant be over a certain age.

I hope this answers your questions.

Answer 7

Normally they aren't very good backgrounds. Rape/physical and emotional abuse/drugs/neglect/etc. Children range in all ages that get put up for adoption. It is not only babies. My parents did foster care for a 12 year old once.

Answer 8

Adopted infants and children come from all kinds of backgrounds.  My birth family was upper middle class.  Nobody did any drugs.  They went to church several times a week.

Some first mothers have problems with poverty or addictions.  Many DO NOT.  The stereotyping I'm seeing in some of these answers is just that--stereotyping--and it makes me angry.  I know nothing about the mothers of anyone here, so I wouldn't talk about them like that.

Answer 9

any types of people--

most of the time they are either rape babies or drug babies or something in that area- not to be mean or offensive; its true.

my bff is adopted- her father was a pothead and her mom an achoholic.

now her family is good except for her dad.. but i wont get into that.

Answer 10

yikes whats with all the rapes?  i am pregnant and giving my baby up for adoption and i think im a normal person but i just cant afford a baby right now and if you really think about it, if us girls who gave up their own babies are not nice people and dont care about their babies we would have gotten abortions. my baby is everything to me, i have been looking after myself very well and am about to go through the hardest thing i have ever done in my life. my baby comes from a good background i believe and thats proven by me doing whats best for him.

Answer 11

all sorts of background and ages!

are you thinking of adopting or been adopted!

Answer 12

I can only speak of my background. My Nmom was married with 3 children. She went on to have 2 after me. I am the only one she placed for adoption. She has now been happily married 50 years.

I was placed with my Apars at 3 mos old. They were divorced before the ink dried on my adoption. They had been married 21 years at the time.

Adoption is is like a roll of the dice

Answer 13

It depends.

Children from foster care usually suffered abuse or neglect and tend to have mental illnesses as a result (PTSD, RAD, and so forth). Not always, but usually.

Babies who are voluntarily relinquished by their mothers at birth are usually healthy, from middleclass background, their moms are generally above average intelligence and in college, and usually their moms could have parented just fine, but they either fell for adoption propaganda and/or weren't given any family support to parent.

Children available for international adoption come from widely diverse backgrounds, depending on the country.

Again, these are generalities, not hard and fast rules, but statistically, these are the norms.

Answer 14

I'm adopted...

My birth parents were not good at looking after me, took a lot of drugs, we lived on a council estate. I pretty much had to look after myself. Then social services came and put me up for adoption =/

Answer 15

There are a lot of kids who come from abusive or neglectful homes.  Some of these kids were sexually, physically or emotionally abused by one or both of their parents.  Some of them might be coming from a home where they were sold for drugs or where there was a lot of drug business going on inside their homes.  There are a lot of older kids in foster care right now around 8 and over waiting for a home to go to. A lot of the kids are siblings that need to stay together.  You can adopt if you are single or married but you need a home study, enough room in your house for the kid or kids you want to adopt, able to pay for food, clothing, medical bills, and education.  Babies in foster care usually get put back with their parents within 6 months to 1 year of being in foster care as it is the goal of CPS to put the children back with their parents if possible.

Answer 16

All backgrounds, we shouldn't stick to stereotypes. There is a complex myriad of reasons. Some children will have come from capable, loving homes that simply couldn't provide in one area. Of course, many children will have experienced a very difficult time, prior to adoption, and may have certain issues.

Most families that can prove they can provide a suitable- safe, supportive, nurturing home and can provide for child(ren)'s needs can adopt.

Children of all ages are waiting to be adopted in foster care and in foster families or orphanages around the world.

~Stef

Answer 17

Usuall y poor and deprived  but not always....   Can be of any age