What kind of mother....Is this?

Question

what kind of mother Is mean to their kids and treats them very bad all because she has problems? what kind of mother calls their kids names and wishes death upon them? what kind of mother makes their kids cry and doesn't want them to suceed In life and be happy? that's what kind of mother my mom Is. I'm 28 years old and still live at home because of my mother. I fear my mom since she Is so evil and I believe she Is racist against me since she treats me so different than my other siblings and we are not the same race. my mom does nothing with her life besides live to be mean to people. she still wants us all to ask her for permission to do things and acts like we cannot do nothing without her. my older sister Amber Is 37 and still lives at home and asks for permission to do things, she even asks to take a nap. I don't understand why my mom Is the way she Is. I love her but to me I feel she doesn't love me because I've been through h**l with her. I thought all mothers are supposed to love their kids. I always treat my mom with respect and love but I don't get the same back, I just want to live my life but I can't when I live at home with my mom and she babies all of us thinking we can't do anything. she emotionally abuses all of her kids and aren't happy for us, she lives her days In the past and Isn't thankful for us. Is there a place I can live without my mom knowing? cuz I am so tired of living her and going through all of this day by day, year after year. are there any place that I will be able to live that will teach me how to be Independent? since my mom never taught any of her kids any of that? what would you do In this kind of situation?

Answer 1

I think you know what kind of mother that is - that's why your asking the question.

Answer 2

One of the most unfair things in the world is that nearly anyone can biologically create a child - but not everyone is cut out to be a good parent. Unfortunately, mothers and fathers are only human. They are just average people, and many of them have a a whole bag full of heartache and disappointments from their own bad background. Yes, everyone deserves a truly loving, kind, sweet mom, but the reality of life is that some people end up with a mom who is quite troubled, and therefore can't give or show as much love for her kids as she might feel.  It sounds like your mother has more than her share of problems, but unfortunately, she has not matured enough to get over her own problems in order to give you the love and kindness you deserve.

  Try your very best to understand that she might be hurting, too, and that she will probably never be able to give you the love and support you need. Maybe she had a bad upbringing, which means that she doesn't know HOW to be a sweet, good mom, because she didn't have a good role model. Do the best you can to keep the peace until you can get educated, get a job, and move out on your own. You can even try to be kind with her, and encourage her to talk about her background, so that she can get some of the "hurt" out of her system.

  You are NOT a bad or unworthy person because your mother treats you the way she does. SHE is the one with the problem - and you will hopefully go on to become a good and kind person despite the fact that your mother can't be a "real" mom to you.  Good luck!!

Answer 3

Make a doctor's appointment for a physical.

Ask the doctor if he can refer you to a social worker.

Once you get a social worker they can refer you to a program that can help you. They can also help you to find independant living.

Best wishes

Answer 4

Awww sweetie thats a sad story. I would try your best to get ut, as in leave without telling any1, go to a friends or relatives house. Or try calling 911 and telling exactly what you wrote here. Btw. i love 3 days grace too:)

Answer 5

I know how you feel.

I have a Dad that treats me like I dont even belong to him. He hits me, he's rude to me, he chucks me out of the house and hes really rude and disrespectful towards me.

I dont think that there is anything you can really do except move out. Im only 13 and its been happening to m since i was about 4.

Another thing you could do is to show her that you are dissapointed. Just ignore her and dont give her a fight, which is probably what she wants. Ask her 'why are you being mean to me?' and always keep calm and mention your own feelings. Your mum wont be able to fight back.

I hope this helps and you have a better relationship with your mum.

Answer 6

do you have a job? if so find an apartment and move out

I can't imagine grown kids living at home at your ages

Answer 7

How many kids are in the house? If it is just the two of you and you both are over twenty then I would go as far away as possible. If there are kids under age I would call CPS and have them removed from her custody. I'm sure you have some family members who would take care of them if they were taken away. No one needs to live like this.

Answer 8

I had a lot of trouble with my father. He treated me like i had no relation to him at all. If you have a partner or another relative who you are close to, ask to talk to them in private and maybe ask if you could spend a couple of days away from your mother. just see how you get on. Just prove to your mother that you are stronger than her and you are there to help her. Not start a fight and make things more difficult for her.

Answer 9

You know it is such a d**n shame that some people treat their children this way. You need to find a way out for yourself, try and become independant some how. I understand that you may feel worried about her and may even feel as if you don't want to disrespect her,but that is a source of manipulation. At this time in age even though you are 28 you may not feel as if you have not had the chance to bloom into adulthood the correct way.Only you can do this for yourself. It will be hard in the beginning and you may feel nothing but guilt,but stick up for yourself either way. And get therapy, you probably won't overcome these issues alone.

Answer 10

That is a troubled mother.... Move out one night while she is asleep or when she isnt there. That might encourage your sister to move aswell.

Before doing that why dont you get a job save up and then find somewhere with cheap rent?

Stand up to her- it is your life now! This is what annoys me about people- they talk about doing things but they never do it, with me if i decide to do something i will do it and not ponder over it wondering whether it is the right decision or not!

Don't ponder-get out!

Answer 11

Some mothers, like your mother, obviously hate their child. Don't worry, I've been through a situation that's similar to yours. My parents left me in an orphanage when I was young. They didn't want me anymore. Though I have new, loving parents, the ghost of my former parents still haunt me. I suggest you move out, with or without her permission. Just because you're her child, that doesn't mean she can control you, though it also doesn't mean she has to love you. Be more independent, get an apartment, move out.