What kind of person goes ballistic and immediately breaks off a potential friendship...?

Question

...because her new acquaintance tells her that she does not like be psychoanalyzed or advised? The person in mind here is a very lonely social worker who seems to be in the habit of analyzing and advising other people without being asked, like many people in the helping fields. I don't think she even realizes how codependent and offensive this is. She believes she is helping. I met this woman online. She wanted an instant connection and became disappointed, snarky, and angry when I would not go out with her on Labor Day.

What are your thoughts? Do you think I was wrong to tell her my feelings or to set boundaries with her? What would you have done instead?

Answer 1

The kind of person who will never be a good friend to you or anyone else.  A manipulator with serious issues. A person who will always violate your boundaries.

I think you handled it just fine.   You told her and she got offended.  Too bad!  You may be the person who helps her to self-awareness.  You are a much better person than me.

I probably would not have said a thing, cut the conversation, and avoided her.  

Answer 2

One can't force a connection.  If she is behaving this way, after knowing you for only a short period of time, imagine how she would behave over time, after really getting to know you.  Short answer: you did the right thing.

Answer 3

A emotionally confused person who has low self esteem.

Sounds to me like she is used to getting her way in every aspect of her life. On-line life isn't reality nor should problems tried to be solved that way. You weren't  wrong in telling her your feeling, Not sure exactly how you told her.

Keep clear and let her sort out her problematic life style.

Answer 4

One thing is clear: it's not a match. Move on.

The person in mind here is a very lonely social worker who seems to be in the habit of analyzing and advising other people without being asked, like many people in the helping fields.

One more time; You are incompatible. You were thrown clear by the blast. Keep moving.

Once again, for the slow learners:

What are the chances of you encountering someone else with this condition? If we could explain it to you, it would not change the fact that it is impossible to love someone and shrink them at the same time.

Get along, little doggie.

Answer 5

That person is hyper sensitive to criticism.