What kind of responsibilities do you think i should have being 20 years old and a girl?

Question

Okay, actually I am 19 but i will be 20 in november. I was wondering what kind of responsibilities do normal girls my age usually have. I do do a lot of stuff around the house and i am going to college. but specifics what do you think i should be doing. And do you think i should be working, while I'm in college. I don't work now because I am afraid it will take away from my studies and I am grateful i don't have to work, but should i be working? And what kind of things do normal girls my age do as far as responsibilities go. I don't want to be considered lazy or a loser.

Answer 1

I would say as far as financial responsibilites, it would depend what kind of bills you have... do you have a cell phone? A car? Who is paying for the cell phone, car, and car insurance? If the answer is mom and dad, I would think that is being lazy and suggest working during the summer months and school breaks to offset the costs.

I understand the importance of having the time for studies. I was lucky enough to not work during the school year when I was in college. However, I did not have a cell phone nor did I have a car.

Answer 2

Well, lets say Mom and Dad or either are alive and well. Able to care for themselves. You, at 19, should not be working, if not necessary...to optimize your grades being excellent. At home, you should be washing your own clothes. Sharing in cooking sometimes with whomever cooks now. Yes, for everyone, if you all eat together. Your room and part of the shared area of the house should be cleaned by you. Say the Bathroom(s) or Kitchen and your bedroom are to be cleaned by you once a week thoroughly. Is this what you are asking? You should only be working if your parents needed help paying bills at home...Electric, Gas, Food, Rent. You should consult them and try to compromise with them for what is expected of you. Good luck with common sense.  

Answer 3

if you aren't working outside the home then you should be picking up extra chores around the house.

You do your own laundry.  If you don't eat with the family then you fix your own meals and clean up after yourself.

extra chores would be clean the bathrooms, do the grocery shopping, prepare dinner for the family a few nights a week (this will help you learn to cook).  figure out what is needed in your home and work from there.

for example:  the summer between my sr year of HS and my frosh year of college I couldn't get a job so I was paid to plan the weekly menu, do the grocery shopping, prepare the family meals Monday-Friday and clean up the kitchen on the nights I cooked.  I was paid $150 a week plus I got to keep the change from the grocery trip.  This helped to teach me how to cook, how to budget, how to plan and organize.  I also picked up an extra $50 a week doing the family laundry--I was responsible for my own laundry but I got paid the extra to do everyone else's laundry.  These chores helped my mom out who was working. because I proved I was responsible with the car when I went shopping, I got a later curfew when I was home for the summer.  (weekdays my curfew was midnight but it was 2AM on the weekends plus I got almost unlimited personal use of the spare car--I had to pay for the gas)

by the time I was 20, I was in my own apartment and I knew how to run the place and manage my funds and live in a budget.

If you're not working then you may be able to either negotiate an allowance or some extra money for picking up other chores that other people don't want to do. but you should definitely be taking care of your own things that you would have to do when you move out.  Even if you were a guy, I'd recommend this.  You should know how to cook, clean and take care of your own home

Answer 4

If you have the luxury of not working, you owe your parents to get very good grades. If you can handle a part time job, good. Then start buying your own clothes, and paying as many of your own bills as you can. You should be helping around the house, as you are getting free room and board. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. should be done to pay for your own way. It will help you understand what it takes to keep a house later in life.  Of coarse fallow all of your parents rules, they are paying the bills. When you pay all of your own bills then you get to make the rules. Most normal girls today are s******g up their lives, so you don't want to be like normal girls your age. Be special, be responsible, be adult, but most of all be moral and of good character. Do go to Church. This is where you will meet moral guys. Do join a club or get active in a sport. Make good friends, the kind that don't do anything your parents wouldn't like.  Don't do drugs, or go out drinking. It will s***w up your life. Make long term goals and work towards them. Don't just live for today. Don't get married or even engaged until after you graduate and get a career. Don't s***w around, it's not moral and getting pregnant will s***w up your college. Any woman can get any guy any night she wants, so no hurry. s*x is not Love. If you fallow these simple suggestions you will be anything but a looser.

Answer 5

I would expect that you hold a part time job, contribute to the household by buying some groceries once in a while or helping cook meals.  Do your own laundry, take out trash, do dishes and clean the bathroom without having to be asked.  Get good grades and study.

The part time job would get you some cash to purchase things like clothes, entertainment, car insurance and gas.  You would be out meeting people and probably have a good time too (depending on the job of course).  

What makes you think you aren't a "normal" girl?  Why do you have to ask?  Money or not, I want my kids to be prepared for life when they are out on their own.  Life is tough and you need to be ready to take care of yourself when mommy and daddy can't or won't anymore.