What kind of things can I do to classify my personality & fix it? Where could I start to begin discover this?

Question

I have a personality where I "don't" let people know what I really feel. I isolate myself from the regular world and maintain a small group of friends who I either grew up with or I met through like school.

I maintain two sides one where I won't reveal how I feel but im not like a shy person or pushover im actually very protective and confident in certain regards.

Recently I met someone who I let in completely because I vibed so much with the person. And now they see me for what I am because I shared it.

But the dilemma I have is I have found that the person says I do what I think people will like or expect and sacrifice what I really feel in the process.

And its true I will do for others and want nothing in return just because I know thats not the normal. But when its time for me to really express what I am about or think about its kind of hard because I don't want to hurt those close to me.

Does anyone know a personality type this is or somewhere I can get started in bringing me out more freely?

It's become like second nature to be overly passive to the point where I pull myself out of situations completely to avoid myself coming out.

But I have managed to accomplish all I wanted to but I maintain my shell and breathe a little once in a while.

I would appreciate any ideas or pointers on where to start cause im really looking to change.

Answer 1

you cant really classify someones personality but i would say that you describe feelings of fear of rejection.  so i would say, for what you described, to some extent that you are a perfectionist who wants to please everybody all the time.  to fix this you must realize that not everyone is going to like you in life.  this is true for every person no matter how much they try to please others.  what you need to do is find your comfort zone where you feel comfortable expressing yourself without pissing everyone off.  if your friends are truly your friends, if you express your thoughts and opinions, they should respect you for being a genuine person, not judge you for those things.  you must realize that everyone is different and respecting those differences is an important part of being able to maintain a healthy and happy life.

Answer 2

I think you're the type of person that puts yourself always second. You would rather sacrifice things, and do things that would make others around you feel happy. Just like you said, you don't want to tell others how you really feel, because you're afraid of what the results are (In that you might hurt them). This can be troublesome for you in the future. You've made friends with people that are friends with you for someone who you aren't. I suggest you just tell your close friends upfront about how you really feel, and if you lose some friends in the process, maybe you shouldn't have become friends with them in the first place, because that isn't what friends do. You're a bit insecure, and to overcome this, you just need to come out and tell them how you really feel. If not, and if you continue your old ways, it might inhibit your full potential in the future.